Don't Force Your Friends To Be Friends With Each Other

Don't Force Your Friends To Be Friends, Advice From The Girl Who's Done That Her Entire Life

We all want that Cheetah Girls girl gang where everyone is besties and loves each other equally, but it's not always realistic.


I'm a girl's girl through and through, and as long as I can remember I've always surrounded myself with big groups of my favorite girlies.

I get along with a lot of different kinds of gals, that I've learned over the years don't always get along with each other.

I have this complex where I want everyone to be friends, and if you are someone who knows me in my personal life you're probably nodding your head thinking "yeah girl, you did this to me!"

For a long time, I couldn't understand how all my favorite people couldn't see each other as amazing as I saw all of them. So I would constantly be taking all of my very different friends and throwing them into situations where everyone was together, thinking there's no way this could go wrong.

Spoiler alert: More often than not, it went wrong.

Whenever you have groups of girls together that are more than just two, you can expect some drama. I think this is why I've always found myself in the mix of all the drama, even if it's not necessarily mine, because of clashing between friends.

Everyone has their own opinion on the decisions everyone else makes and girlie girls love to gossip, so you can imagine how extreme things get when the whole friend group doesn't love each other unconditionally.

Whether it was pool parties, homecomings, birthday celebrations and even a vacation house or two when the whole gang was together, you knew you were in for a treat. And when I say "you" I actually mean me because half the time when I look back I think I'm the only one who had any fun at those things.

I was always the hostess with the mostest so I decided the guest list, and though I thought I was being super inclusive and awesome with inviting everyone, on more than one occasion it backfired.

Within the large group of friends, everyone would divide into smaller groups, so even when we were all together, the only one that felt like we were a collective unit was me. It's hard to hang out and actually have fun when, on occasion, the number of friends all together was in the double digits.

That's a lot for any girls night with your "closest" friends.

So, if you're like me and you have this need to bring people together, remember that not everyone is going to be friends, and that's okay.

I still try to do that today and it's a miracle when it works out seamlessly, but miracles do happen.

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Don't let anyone try to influence you to value one friendship over another if that's not how you really feel.

Like any relationship, friends have their ups and downs, but it's up to you to decide if its something worth fighting for.

My friends are my family, so with them willing, I will always fight for them.

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20 'Thank Yous' My Best Friends Need To Hear BEFORE The Semester Ends

Because I don't thank you enough.


When I decided to graduate a year early, I never thought about how hard it would be to say goodbye. The best part of my three-year journey at Florida State was the friends that I had made. The friends you meet in college are the friends you will never forget. Although in two weeks we will be miles apart, this is not the end of us-- this is a different type of forever. At this point, all I can say is thank you for making my time here unforgettable. Thank you:

1. For buying me Ice Cream when I had a bad day.

2. For pushing me out of my comfort zone. 

3. For teaching me the right way to do Happy Hour. 

4. For complimenting me when I wore that tight dress.

5. For forcing me to go to the library with you.

6. For *trying* to make me go to the gym.

7. For giving me great advice that you know I won't follow. 

8. For letting me borrow your new shirt even though you haven't even worn it yet.

9. For forgiving me when I get a little sassy.

10. For telling me I can do better. 

11. For reading my shitty articles. 

12. For ignoring my absolutely terrible singing. 

13. For laughing at my jokes. 

14. For roasting me in the group chat. 

15. For driving me to class when I was too lazy to find parking. 

16. For picking me up from class when I was too lazy to walk back home.

17. For lending me money because I really REALLY needed that extra guacamole.

18. For tolerating my annoying self after your stressful day.

19. For staying up late because I didn't want to watch the scary movie alone.

20. For being the best friends I ever had.


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When You Give A Girl An Art Student For A Roommate

An experience, unparalleled


When you give a girl an art student as a roommate you open yourself and your room up to a lot. You open your room up to scattered art supplies and seemingly endless paper scraps as well as overflowing creativity. Basically, everything any art major may need is in our room (not really, but it can feel like it).

There will be times when what you need is to sit in a dorm bathroom for hours on end, listening to music and watching your roommate basket weave out of the bathtub. (Trust me, it wasn't as weird as it sounds, or was it?) There might be times where your roommate is so invested in her current project that you don't want to disturb anything in fear of messing something up. And in all honesty, there might be times when you walk into a room that has art supplies and projects laid out across the entire floor. You know the whole "the floor is lava", you don't know what that's actually like until you live with an art student (in a dorm nonetheless).

But you also open yourself (and your room for that matter) to overwhelming creativity. If and/or when you get a project where you have no clue what you're supposed to do and it pertains to something "artsy"- you have another brain with you to give you ideas and help (thank you!!!).

Granted, what you may expect from a stereotypical "art student" isn't who my roommate is. My roommate, while still an art student, is a graphic design major so most of her work is online. Or so I thought. When we signed up to room together, I don't think that either of us considered what it would really be like.

I'm not saying that it was bad, but with me not being the most organized person in the world in addition to a lot of art supplies hiding in spots around the room, it was… a file cabinet of random papers and supplies. I type this, laughing and it's not that either of us was particularly messy (except my bad), but I find it amusing that when I sat on the floor or somewhere I'd find a stray paper shred or a bead or even a pencil.

I think what makes me smile and laugh the most is during freshman year when we sat in the handicapped bathroom my roommate's floor. The bath filled with weaving reed-things (sorry I don't know the name of them) and we probably sat there for hours upon hours, doing our homework - except hers consisted of basket weaving whereas mine was the complete opposite.

The time I walked in and just stood in the doorway with some sort of uneasy feeling- later finding out that you were in the ER because of some project using an Exacto knife, I will say that both definitely make for an exciting life and roommate experience. But all in all, I wouldn't have had anyone else as a roommate.

A roommate who bleeds creativity and an amazing artistic ability as well as lots of determination. A roommate who enjoys the little things like the movie nights we had and stupid jokes that made us laugh so hard we cried.

So what do you get when you get an art student for a roommate?

You get a friend for life.

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