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21 Reasons I Fully Support My Best Friend Turning 21 Before Me

And every age after that.


My best friend just turned 21 and at first thinking about how I have a whole year before we can hit the bars (legally) together, made me feel a little sad. I wondered how much more fun this summer could be if we were both "of age," but then I thought about how great it's been to have been able to see her go through all of life's big moments just a little before me.

She's the big sister you've always wanted because she's not annoying about it! Yes, she's older, but we can still relate to absolutely everything the other is going through, she just has a few more stories to go along with the advice she gives.

Here are 21 things that happen when your best your best friend is a year older than you.

1. You have the "big sister, little sister" relationship, without taking it to extremes


There's no question I look up to her, but I know she looks up to me too.

2. Yes she's older than me, but no one think it's weird that we're Bffs


We've introduced each other to so many different people I can't keep track, and never once has anyone questioned our different ages or grades.

3. You can watch her go through everything in life before you and learn from her experiences

Whether it be finding an internship, relation struggles, friend drama, and eventually navigating through real world, I feel more prepared because I've been by her side as she's tackled it first.

4. But we're still at the same maturity level to understand each other's problems and their relevancy

There's never been a time where something she says goes over my head, or listening to me rant is like listening to a 3rd grader. We're so close in age that we just get it even if we're not living it, and our combined experiences equals total success.

5. When it comes to grade school a year makes a big difference, so both of our social circles we're hella expanded


In high school especially I always felt like I knew so many people, because if they weren't my friends they were her's.

6. Yet it's not weird for either of you to hang out with each other's friends

It doesn't feel like you're hanging out with the "big kids" or the "little kids" when we hung with each other's friends, it was just more friends.

7. You can have entirely different groups of friends and there will NEVER (dare I even say it) be an ounce of jealousy

Jealousy just isn't a thing, because no matter what you do always have your own stuff going on.

8. Your parents always think she's super responsible (not that she's not, but iykyk) so they'll give you more freedom then usual because "she's older"


Story of my life growing up! So much so that I would actually get annoyed when I hung out with friends in my grade, because there were so many rules and it was like we could do anything fun! This also may just be our parents letting us roam...see number 17.

9. She got her license a whole year sooner than you, so it was like you got yours a year early


Bye bus! See ya, wouldn't wanna be ya.

10. It was super cool when she was in High School and you were in Middle School

2011 Me: "Yeah well, my best friends in High School, so..."

11. She's been there, and done that, so your crazy party stories are always welcomed with open arms


More like encouraged.

12. You mature slightly sooner than your others friends

The minute she stepped foot on a college campus I was SO OVER all things high school.

13. You'll always keep her young, even if it's just a little

And youth is the ultimate desire.

14. There's no competition because you're never at the exact same moment in life

You just want each other to succeed so you can achieve your lifelong dream of world domination together.

15. She ALWAYS wants the best for you because no one wants to be slaying the game solo

Also, world domination.

16. She's wiser than you, without being annoying about it

There will never be a "when I was your age", but she still has so much she can teach you.

17. She used to babysit you


This one is unique to us because I can't see anyone else's parent's allowing a 6th and 7th grader to stay home alone together for half a school week, but I'm so glad ours did.

18. You always have someone looking out for you


And she's never been afraid to throw hands.

19. With the year difference, you've always lead slightly different lives, so you've known from day one how to thrive through seperation


Growing up we never had the luxury of having classes or lunch periods together, but we've made it work since day 1 so now its just second nature.

20. She's the best and worst influence

If she's my worst influence then take a deep breath mom and dad because things are looking up!

21. She turns 21 before you


If you're 21, I'm 21.

There's no one I'd rather have as my best friend.

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Emily Beltran

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Being The Last Friend To Turn 21 Isn't ALL Bad

All your friends have turned 21, but that is okay


You may think being the last one out of your friend group to turn twenty-one is the worst thing in the world, but in all honesty, it doesn't have to be. One of the biggest perks is that everyone of your friends can go out to the bars with you on your birthday. All the people who turn twenty-one first have to wait for people to be able to go out with them, but you get to celebrate your birthday with all of your friends.

Another huge reason you should feel okay with being last to turn twenty-one is thinking about all the money you are saving. The bars are expensive. When you don't go to the bars you are saving so much money because an average bar drink is about seven dollars. This being said seven dollars multiple times a night, multiple nights a week really adds up, so you are going to have to budget your money better.

You don't have to be the one to buy alcohol for everyone else. Having a ton of people ask you to buy them alcohol must get annoying at a point, and if you're the youngest out of your friends, no one will be asking you to do liquor store runs for them because they can all go already for themselves.

The biggest reason is that you can enjoy being young. You should still continue to enjoy going to house parties and just being able to hang out with friends without having to go to the bars. Spend these months before you turn twenty-one just being able to enjoy life without feeling obligated to go out to the bars all the time. You have a great excuse when you don't want to drink on a weekday to just stay in. This being said it will be your turn to turn twenty-one soon.


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