In life, do not expect people to feel the same way as you, or even to process feelings the same way you do. I’ve been through the ringer, I haven’t had the easiest time growing up, but I’ve never wanted to be pitied. We all come from different walks of life, we all go through different trials and some of us are faced with none. I have overcome everything I have been through, and if I haven’t, I’m working hard at it. I’ve faced death, abuse, loneliness, as well as other things life has thrown at me.

I never expect to be pitied.

People that have been through the things that are haunting you and made it out are least likely to be sympathetic. They know where you are, and they expect you to make it out the same way they did. This is not always easy. As human beings, we all are different. The way I cope with situations could be totally different from anyone on this planet. We cannot assume everyone will understand how we feel.

The people who do understand us though, are the people to keep around.

The people who help you in your time of need and the ones that understand you when you don’t understand yourself, are the people you need in your life. These people don’t always pity you, but they do keep you grounded. They never let you slip, they’ll be there to pick you up.

I have maybe 12 people out of everyone I have met in life that I can trust to this capacity. I have never been pitied, I’ve never asked to be. These people who have helped me through my downfalls have been there on their own. I tend to stick to the people I relate to, and to the ones who try to understand and help me when its needed.

So, don’t worry about whether or not people know how you feel. The people who want to be around you and be in your life will be there through anything. If someone leaves you in your time of need, or even when you need to be alone; they need to go. Surround yourself with people who love you and support you when you need someone.