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Everyone Deserves Love, So Stop Dwelling On The Past

The girl that broke your heart three years ago shouldn't make you break the hearts of any girl that comes after her, and the guy who did you wrong shouldn't have been given the power to take your heart with him when he left.

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Everyone Deserves Love, So Stop Dwelling On The Past

All too often I hear the sayings "b*tches ain't sh*t", or "guys ain't sh*t", but why is our generation that emotionally drained that we have to group everybody as undeserving of love? When one person gets hurt in a relationship all of a sudden their heart turns cold, they have given their all to one person and when it doesn't go the way they planned, anybody who follows is already set to fail.

Where is the logic here? It is unfortunate that people get hurt, but heartbreak is inevitable at least once in a person's life. This is how you grow, how you learn what you need, how you figure out the difference between real and fake love.

It is human nature to want love. At the end of the day, everybody wants the same things- that unconditional love that allows you to feel secure and wanted. We all just want to find our "person". But nobody wants to deal with the pain of figuring out who that is.

This generation is so prideful it is ridiculous. At such young ages, we are experiencing the necessary tribulations that teach us the lessons needed to grow, but instead of growing we close ourselves off to the world. When we do this, we forget that when we close ourselves off to the world and disregard the people right in front of us, we continue the vicious cycle. The people that may have offered genuine feelings are the ones left vulnerable in this equation; they are the ones who get hurt and in the end, their hearts are also cold. When does it end?

When it comes to relationships, this generation is far too focused on getting even, "reciprocating energy", and only allowing themselves to engage in situations that can't result in emotional turmoil. These are all extremely unhealthy survival tactics and need to be left in the past.

Getting even and hurting people who have nothing to do with your past pain isn't going to help you heal. The girl that broke your heart three years ago shouldn't make you purposely break the heart of any girl that comes after her, and the guy who did you wrong shouldn't have been given the power to take your heart with him when he left.

The void will never be filled by the meaningless connections that everybody seeks to distract themselves from reality. Yet we still engage in superficial relations based on looks without getting to know one thing about the soul within.

Instead of worrying about how to prevent ourselves from future pain, we need to be focusing on how to turn the pain into instances we can learn from. If everybody keeps living in this fear, we will never grow, and we will never break free of these selfish tendencies. It is human nature to love, so why live a life trying to change our instincts?

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