It's so easy for someone to feel insignificant when they've become the second option for quite some time. It's almost like a routine, and you don't know when this treacherous cycle will dissipate. Even when people tell you to focus on yourself and not so much on a relationship, you still end up getting screwed. What gives? For quite some time, it's normal to feel like the supporting actress in a movie instead of the leading lady. You strive to be the leading lady. You dream of being the leading lady. Those are your goals. But for some weird and unfair reason, you have had the unfortunate luck of being the rebound girl or the second option many, many times. It can damper your self-esteem, I can understand that. Though it might seem as though being someone's second choice is better than nothing, you need to recognize your self-worth and understand that you deserve better.
It's easy to get caught up in something because you want to be adored; we're only human and being vulnerable is natural. But there comes a time when you have to start letting go of being okay with being the rebound, the second option, or not number one in anyone's book. It's not healthy when you start to feel like you can't live up to their expectations, and it's that it is okay to be just "good enough" for someone. But that's crazy. Somewhere out there, you are not just "good enough" - you are more than enough. You put the stars in the night sky and somewhere out there, someone is waiting to meet you and fall for you on good, honest terms. Not because they're lonely or looking for some action. But because they cherish and treasure you.
Please don't be someone's second choice because you will never truly understand how incredible you are. You will see yourself through the eyes of this person who is settling for you; who is messing with your emotions and disrespecting you completely. Your other half is supposed to be someone who brings out the best in you. Why on earth would you want to be surrounded by a shallow person who is full of negativity and all the wrong intentions? Who wants to be associated with someone who had vain reasoning behind it all?
Please don't be someone's second choice because you are beautiful and you deserve the world just like anyone else. There is someone out there for everyone in the world, and I will always disagree with the people who say they are going to be alone forever or that they will never find someone, causing them to settle on being the second choice. I know it feels like forever, but be patient. It will be worth it. Please understand that there is more out there than where you currently remain.
Don't be someone's second choice because it is a waste of time and energy for someone who ultimately doesn't even genuinely care about you. You could be out bettering yourself, meeting new people, and making friends who could turn into significant others down the road. Anything is possible. But please don't waste your time on people you know are bad news. Time is precious and you only have so much of it, so try to make the most out of it and escape those shallow individuals who don't ultimately see the beauty in you.
Don't be someone's second choice because you have so much to offer. You're talented, smart, exceptional, and caring. There is nobody like you out there, and it's heartbreaking just knowing that someone is settling for less than they are worth. You are a good person who deserves respect, and you don't need to be put in these unfair situations.
I think that one of the most important things in this life is to fall in love with ourselves first, and then find someone who reminds us daily about how amazing we are, only because that person is the reflection of ourselves and who we choose to love. Don't stick around for someone who puts up with you for the wrong reasons, who isn't passionately in love with you, or doesn't appreciate your quirks and uniqueness.
