Relationships have changed throughout the years. It used to be that you would have to call their home phone and hope to God that they answered and not their parents. Now we send texts every day and hope they don't hit you with that read and no reply. Our generation has an extremely skewed idea of what love is.
When you're dating someone, that person is not in your life to act as another parent figure. They are not there to tell you what you can and can't do. If you want to hang out with your friends, you should feel like you have every right in the world to do so. If you want to go out, then you should be trusted enough to do so. It seems as though people misconstrue the idea of being controlling as a form of love and that's not what love is. When you are with someone they should be by your side supporting you. They should push you to hangout with your friends. They should trust you when you go do something. It's not love if they fight with you every day about everything you're doing.
And since when did it become a thing to have to fight for attention? I'm mind blown at the amount of girls that have to fight for their boyfriend's attention. Newsflash ladies and gentleman, you should never ever have to feel like you're less than someone else to whoever you're with. When you're somewhere you shouldn't have to feel like you have to watch your boyfriend or girlfriend to make sure they're not giving someone else more attention than you. Why would you even want attention from someone if everyone else is getting it to?
Love is not controlling and love is not rules. If you feel the need to set rules in your relationship then you should do some serious reevaluating. You shouldn't feel like without rules the person you're with is going to do something stupid. You are not their mom or their dad and you are not their boss, you have to trust them! Love is not judgmental and love is not insecure. If you're bending over backwards doing everything for someone and they don't have the decency to do that for you too, they don't love you like you love them.
Love is patient, it's being there for them even when they're being hard to handle. Love is without judgement, it's being able to go to them for anything without the fear of them thinking less of you. Love is kind, it's being able to go day to day without having to pick dumb little fights. Love is selfless, it's wanting to do whatever it takes to make sure they're happy. Love isn't as hard as we make it and we need to stop romanticizing toxic relationships.
