This Cuffing Season I'm Choosing To Fall In Love With Myself
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This Cuffing Season, I'm Choosing To Fall In Love With Myself

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This Cuffing Season, I'm Choosing To Fall In Love With Myself
Ruby Dale

The temperature is dropping, the Tinders are being deleted, and girls are posting "who wants to cuddle?" on their Snapchat story. That's right, you guessed it. It's cuffing season. For those of you who aren't aware what cuffing season is, it's a period of time around November and December where girls and boys will enter relationships.

For the past few years of my life, I had found cuffing season a bit tedious, and I've never actually had a boyfriend around this period. Now that I'm in college, I've realized that cuffing season here is no joke. Within the span of two and a half months, I've watched my college friend group enter relationships or the "talking" phase with a significant other, and even my hometown friends found love at their campuses.

It's an epidemic, and it's one that I'm not really interested in taking part of. Don't get me wrong, I've had opportunities to be in relationships with boys, and I've even gone out on dates. However, I'm just not interested in being tied down during this pivotal time in my life. This cuffing season, I've decided to put myself first.

I want to be able to meet a bunch of new people with no restrictions.

I enjoy making connections with new people, even if it's not romantically. There are so many different kinds of people with so many stories, and I don't want to hold myself back from the possibility of creating a real connection with a person that I normally wouldn't.

If I'm in a relationship, I know I'll limit myself to one person, and I'll feel as if I have to look no further. However, to be able to better myself, I need to branch out and talk to whoever I deem interesting.

I have to focus on my education because that's what comes first.

As a psychology major on a pre-med path, I rarely have free time, and when I do, it's spent with my friends and talking to my family. I want to be able to accomplish so many things, and if I focus on someone else instead of my studies, I'll lose the student I want to be in the midst of it all. School has always been an important aspect of my life, and I want to be able to use all the resources that Syracuse has to offer.

I need to learn how to fully love myself first before loving another human.

Although I do feel comfortable in my own skin, I haven't fully learned how to love myself and all my flaws completely. I need to work on my happiness before anyone else's, and although I have a big heart and I tend to put others first, I've learned that doing what's best for me will always remain a priority. When I finally learn to accept everything I am, then I'll be ready to enter another relationship.

I want to better myself, for myself

I enjoy taking care of myself. By this, I mean going to the gym frequently, taking vitamins, working hard in school, and doing things I thoroughly enjoy. I want to be able to be the best version of myself possible before entering anything long-term. Looking good and feeling good go hand in hand for me, and I still have work left to do before I'm truly the person I want to be.

I'm not in any rush to fall in love right now. When it happens, it happens.

I'm not really looking for anything serious right now. College is already such a huge time commitment, and keeping in touch with family and friends is so important to me. Whenever I meet someone who I vibe with, I've decided that I'm just gonna let things go at their own pace. I don't want to force feelings for someone or feel that I have to because everyone's in a relationship. I'm not in the best position yet to be giving my love to someone else, but when I am, I hope that it makes me the happiest I've ever been.

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