Lately I’ve been dealing with a lot of hate directed toward me. People tend to judge you before they really even know anything real about you. And this happens everywhere, all the time throughout our adult years. But it just gets hard sometimes. It’s hard to cope with someone creating insane stories and allegations against you when they don't even know something as simple as what your favorite color is. It’s incredibly difficult to know how to handle situations like these as well. As this week of hell comes to a close, I will go through how I managed to deal with these hurtful and annoying situations hands on.
Be the bigger person.
Although it’s way easier said than done, being the bigger person is the way to go. You can’t give this person the satisfaction of knowing that they hurt you or that what they’re doing is getting to you, because then they get exactly what they want. And we can’t let that happen. Pretending that everything is fine shows that you are more mature. If you can go on without saying anything negative, or blowing up, then you will essentially win. The person causing these issues will be confused and will see that nothing small or petty can get to you, and this will hopefully stop their bulls***.
Kill them with kindness.
Hmm.. hopefully you read that correctly. I did say kill them...but with kindness. Easier said than done, but this is the most direct way of dealing with this type of predicament. By being extremely and even overbearingly nice to someone who has been smack talking you, or that doesn’t like you, will piss them off even more. That, or will confuse them to no end. Being nice to someone when they aren’t, shows that you are the adult in the situation and that their drama and childish behavior doesn’t phase you. If you want to really show them, then kill them...(with kindness) for the best outcome.
Project confidence.
Confidence is the best weapon towards negativity. When someone is trying to bring you down, stand your tallest, and walk with the most confidence you can muster. As you show these individuals their words and actions don’t affect you, you are taking the fun and excitement out of being negative towards you. They try to bring you down and talk about you because they want you to react, but if you don’t and come out even more confident in yourself through this experience, then they are defeated on many levels. If they continue to say absurd things about you, literally laugh it off. If they think that saying lies about you will make you react, then prove them wrong. Stand tall even in the circumstance and laugh with them. This will discredit anything they say and make you not a fun target to mess with anymore.
Mentioned previously, all of these are easier said than done. Being in the midst of complete and total negativity is extremely hard. And it’s even harder not to let your emotions control your actions. But these steps helped me deal with my week from hell. Although it didn’t solve my problems with those people, it helped me work on myself and really think about others and their actions. We can’t control others and how they act toward us, but we can be the bigger and better person here, and not stoop to their level. Be confident in yourself, don’t let them get to you, kill them with kindness and seriously just keep pushing on. I promise this will pass and when you get through this you will be a bigger and better person overall. I did it, which means you can too!
