In A World Where Connection Is Easier Than Ever, Why Are We So Alone?

In A World Where Connection Is Easier Than Ever, Why Are We So Alone?

Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, Facetime, SMS. What about BFFs?


Today I walked to class with my phone in my backpack. With my eyes not being occupied by a screen, I noticed maybe the saddest sight. Almost every single person I passed had their neck hunched over with their eyes glued to their smartphone. I could not help myself but think how many connections an average person misses in a day due to being preoccupied with social media.

As Millennials, we are addicted to our smart devices. Bless the generation after us, they don't stand a chance. Anytime we feel alone or uncomfortable we escape to our "safe place." However, this escape is what is causing us to feel so alone even while being surrounded by common nature people. There are countless people that I follow on Instagram that I have never said a word to in person. I actually sat alone with one of my ghost Instagram friends and was too afraid to say hey. I like her pictures, she likes mine, but what if she did not recognize me and just thought I was a complete weirdo?

So, if I feel uncomfortable talking to someone that I found through social media, what is our smartphone really connecting us to? Our smartphones and social media apps connect us to the idea of a group of people. It is a great way to keep you up to date on friends and family who live across the country, and it is a great way to feel closer to your favorite actress or YouTube couple. But at what cost? While keeping us closer to people far away from us, social media apps are pulling us further away from someone you sit directly next to.

So where do we go from here? We put down the smartphone.

What? Outrageous!

I know, but the only way for us to reconnect as humans is to put our technology on silent. Literally and metaphorically. As a world, we are corrupted with this idea of a perfect relationship, the perfect lifestyle, the perfect pet, the perfect body, the perfect GPA, a perfect life (#Goals). When in reality, life is far from perfect. We fear the thought of showing any signs of weakness or variability. Variability is the way humans connect, hello empathy. As a kid, I remember going out to the backyard and playing "lava" on the playset or picking up a stick and pretending it was a sword. Now kids grab an IPad and sit on the couch. They do not have to use their imagination because it is being played out in front of them. We are the only ones who can stop this zombie apocalypse of smartphone drones from happening. So, what are you going to do? Will, you put the smartphone down?

Thrive On!

Ephesians 5:21

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10 Things Someone Who Grew Up In A Private School Knows

The 10 things that every private school-goer knows all too well.


1. Uniforms

Plaid. The one thing that every private school-goer knows all too well. It was made into jumpers, skirts, shorts, scouts, hair ties, basically anything you could imagine, the school plaid was made into. You had many different options on what to wear on a normal day, but you always dreaded dress uniform day because of skirts and ballet flats. But it made waking up late for school a whole lot easier.

2. New people were a big deal

New people weren't a big thing. Maybe one or two a year to a grade, but after freshman year no one new really showed up, making the new kid a big deal.

3. You've been to school with most of your class since Kindergarten

Most of your graduating class has been together since Kindergarten, maybe even preschool, if your school has it. They've become part of your family, and you can honestly say you've grown up with your best friends.

4. You've had the same teachers over and over

Having the same teacher two or three years in a row isn't a real surprise. They know what you are capable of and push you to do your best.

5. Everyone knows everybody. Especially everyone's business.

Your graduating class doesn't exceed 150. You know everyone in your grade and most likely everyone in the high school. Because of this, gossip spreads like wildfire. So everyone knows what's going on 10 minutes after it happens.

6. Your hair color was a big deal

If it's not a natural hair color, then forget about it. No dyeing your hair hot pink or blue or you could expect a phone call to your parents saying you have to get rid of it ASAP.

7. Your school isn't like "Gossip Girl"

There is no eating off campus for lunch or casually using your cell phone in class. Teachers are more strict and you can't skip class or just walk right off of campus.

8. Sports are a big deal

Your school is the best of the best at most sports. The teams normally go to the state championships. The rest of the school that doesn't play sports attends the games to cheer on the teams.

9. Boys had to be clean-shaven, and hair had to be cut

If you came to school and your hair was not cut or your beard was not shaved, you were written up and made to go in the bathroom and shave or have the head of discipline cut your hair. Basically, if you know you're getting written up for hair, it's best just to check out and go get a hair cut.

10. Free dress days were like a fashion show

Wearing a school uniform every day can really drive you mad. That free dress day once a month is what you lived for. It was basically a fashion show for everyone, except for those upperclassmen who were over everything and just wore sweat pants.

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Everyone Wears A Different Face On Social Media, We Can't Take Instagram As Reality

The filter we wear on social media is a not a true reflection of what is really going on in our lives.


Social media has become a regular part of daily life for many. I know for me, right after I wake up, I check my phone for texts or messages, and then all social media platforms for notifications. It has become a part of my morning routine, and I find myself checking social media throughout the day as a way to take a break from the daily grind.

A phenomenon all social media users have experienced at one point or another is observing content that doesn't necessarily reflect the true essence of other people's lives — which in actuality, including both positive and negative aspects, are not always accurately depicted online.

Social media gives us the opportunity to connect with others, stay in touch with loved ones, and meet new people. However, it also gives us full control over picking and choosing what parts of our life we want to share. This can lead to misconstrued interpretations of what is really going on with our friends and family, as well as pre-conceived judgments that are wrong.

It can be fun going online and playing pretend to get a break from reality and the fact that life is composed of the good and the bad. Yet, without the bad, we could never really appreciate the good.

For some, social media is a large part of their identity as a person, which influences them to create content that allows them to share their successes and portray themselves in a positive light — putting forth a face that shows they are a competent person moving forward with their goals and dreams while downplaying mistakes and failures. This is a way of presenting a positive face to the world, which can give other social media users in your network a false image of who you really are as a person.

I love social media for the fact that it has allowed me to keep in touch with people I otherwise would have lost contact with. It is a great way for me to share my writing and art with others to shape my personal brand, and it can serve as a great distraction and way to procrastinate.

However, it has also been harmful to me in the past, especially Facebook.

I used to compare myself to others and the number of likes they got on their photos or the amount of "friends" they had connected in their network. It would both feed my insecurities and boost my ego, simultaneously.

Nowadays, I have a much healthier relationship with how I use social media, in that instead of using it to compare myself to others or as a way to get attention, I am trying to use it to share my creative endeavors and stay connected with the people I care about. It has served as a great way to get support through difficult times.

It's important for all of us to remember that the filter people use on social media, no pun intended, is not a genuine reflection of what is going on in their lives. It's also important to remember that it's okay to show our real face online, not just the pretty, positive one.

Going through hardship is all part of being human and there is no shame in that, while there is also no shame in sharing that reality, especially with the people we care about and who care about us.

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