Confined No More

Confined No More

Escaping from the Confines of Society
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"You'll be damned if you do, you'll be damned if you don't."

If these words so accurately capture our society today, then why do we bother to please everyone, all of their opinions.

Over the past few months, I've learned an important lesson, one that will help me through life: Do what makes you happy and don't give a damn about what anyone else thinks. Make sure that you're doing things that make you happy, not what makes others happy. It sounds like the easiest think to do, doesn't it? In a society where we are taught to please everyone and conform, this is a daunting task.

After realizing the importance of this lesson, I decided to try it, give it a test drive if you will. What have I learned? I'm a really awesome woman who can speak her mind and stand up for herself. I learned that I will never conform and give myself up for someone else ever again. Unspoken rules that society tells you to follow aren't real. I learned that anyone and everyone should try this lesson out.

I am who I am and don't have any regrets. Everyone is their own person. I'm happier and content. If the world was full of people who lived this way, doing what makes them happy (within reason), accepting and joy-giving would become second nature to us. Maybe the human species could see the beauty that surrounds us at all times.

So...

"You'll be damned if you do, you'll be damned if you don't."

Cover Image Credit: Loren Jones

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There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

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If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

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We could all blow off a little steam no matter what age, but sometimes college just seems so fast paced and crowded we get lost in the stress and quickness of class on top of class and some students even hold jobs on top of that. So to all the super stressed gals out there, here are a few tips on how to take a few minutes out of your day to have some time to yourself!

1. Have a spa night

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Buy some face masks and invite some friends over or even turn on your favorite movie and have a spa night to yourself!

2. Go on a drive

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Turn on your favorite playlist and just drive around your town or even a mini road trip! Long drives really relax a lot of people.

3. Cry

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Yes, I know that sounds like a joke but sometimes all you need is a good cry so turn on your sad music playlist (I know you have one, everyone has one) or your favorite tear jerking movie and let the tears flow girl!

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5. Go to the gym

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This one is good for you mentally and physically! A lot of people say the gym is their favorite place simply because its where they can blow off all of their steam. Try it! If you like it, it's a great new hobby to have!

6. Try a new hobby

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Try something to get your mind off of whatever is stressing you out! It could be painting, writing, singing, or dancing! Whatever you want to give a shot at doing, go for it!

7. Go online shopping

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9. Take a nap

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