Confined No More

Confined No More

Escaping from the Confines of Society

"You'll be damned if you do, you'll be damned if you don't."

If these words so accurately capture our society today, then why do we bother to please everyone, all of their opinions.

Over the past few months, I've learned an important lesson, one that will help me through life: Do what makes you happy and don't give a damn about what anyone else thinks. Make sure that you're doing things that make you happy, not what makes others happy. It sounds like the easiest think to do, doesn't it? In a society where we are taught to please everyone and conform, this is a daunting task.

After realizing the importance of this lesson, I decided to try it, give it a test drive if you will. What have I learned? I'm a really awesome woman who can speak her mind and stand up for herself. I learned that I will never conform and give myself up for someone else ever again. Unspoken rules that society tells you to follow aren't real. I learned that anyone and everyone should try this lesson out.

I am who I am and don't have any regrets. Everyone is their own person. I'm happier and content. If the world was full of people who lived this way, doing what makes them happy (within reason), accepting and joy-giving would become second nature to us. Maybe the human species could see the beauty that surrounds us at all times.


"You'll be damned if you do, you'll be damned if you don't."

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I Woke up In The Middle Of The Night To Write About My Fears, They're Worse Than The Dark

One minute I'm thinking about what I want to do after college next thing I know I'm remembering the time I tried talking to a boy and choked on my spit.


It is one of those nights when I am tired, but for some reason, I can't seem to fall asleep. So, what do I do? I pull out my laptop, and I begin to write. Who knows where it will lead. It could lead to a killer article or something that does not make sense. I mean it is almost 2 A.M. In my mind, that's pretty late.

Anyways, let's do this thing.

Like many people, thoughts seem to pile up in my head at this time. It could be anything from a time when I was younger to embarrassing stories to wondering why I am "wasting" my time somewhere to thoughts about the future. All of these things come at me like a wildfire. One minute I'm thinking about what I want to do after college next thing I know I'm remembering the time I tried talking to a boy and choked on my spit.

The thought that is going through my mind as I write this is about the future. It's about the future of my fears. Let me explain. I have multiple fears. Some of my fears I can hide pretty well, others I am terrible at hiding. My fears may seem silly to some. While others might have the same fears. Shall we start?

1. My career

I don't know where to begin with this one. For as long as I can remember, my consistent dream job has been working in the world of sports, specifically hockey. A career in sports can be and is a challenging thing. The public eye is on you constantly. A poor trade choice? Fans are angry. Your team sucks? "Fans" are threatening to cheer for someone else if you can't get your sh*t together. You can be blamed for anything and everything. Whether you are the coach, general manager, owner, it does not matter. That's terrifying to me, but for some reason, I want to work for a team.

2. My family

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Failing with my family, whether that be the family I was born into or my future family, it terrifies me. I have watched families around me fall apart and I have seen how it has affected them. Relationships have fallen apart because of it. I have heard people talk about how much they hate one of their parents because of what happened. I don't want that.

3. Time

This could be a dumb fear. I'm not sure, but I fear time. With every minute that passes, I am just another minute closer to the end. With every day that passes that I am not accomplishing goals or dreams I have, I am losing precious time. It scares me to think of something horrible like "What if I die tomorrow because of something horrific?" or even worse, "What if I don't make it through today?" It's terrible, I know.

4. Forgetting precious memories

When I was younger, I had brain surgery. It is now much harder for me to remember things. I am truly terrified that I am going to forget things I will want to hold close to me forever, but I won't be able to. I am scared I'll forget about the little things that mean a lot. I'm afraid of forgetting about old memories that may disappear. I'm worried that I'll forget about something like my wedding day. That might seem out of this world, but it's a reality for me.

5. Saying "goodbye"

I hate saying bye. It is one of my least favorite things. Saying bye, especially to people I don't know when I'll see again, is a stab in the heart for me. I love my people so much. I love being around them. I love laughing with them. Thought of never having a hello with them again scares me beyond belief.

6. Leaving places that I love

Alright, let me start off by saying this- it takes a lot for me to love a place. It has to feel like home. It has to make me feel comfortable. It has to be a place I can go to and be myself. Thankfully, I have had and still have multiple places that are like that. I have also had places I could not wait to leave. I think that's why leaving places I love is so hard and something I fear so much. I am afraid I'll never get that place "back", for lack of a better term. I guess, I'm trying to say, it's like a piece of me is leaving as well.

These six things are just the start of my fears. Some of these might seem "dumb" or "ridiculous" to you, but for me, it's my life. These are the things that I think about the most. These are the things that feel like a pit in my stomach. These six things are parts of my life that mean a lot to me.

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Managing some Me-Time

Why you should dedicate ten minutes a day to you


Very few people like to be alone. As human beings, we are designed to crave each other's presence. We want to be involved in conversations, activities, and the life that is happening around us. Yet, as much as we wish to be social, taking ten minutes a day to enjoy ourselves is crucial to our happiness and self-development.

1. Your 'me-time' reminds you who you are.

If we are constantly around other people, with their opinions, their likes, their dislikes, and habits, we will eventually start to develop their interests. Although this is not necessarily a bad thing, it can become troublesome if we completely abandon who we are to become our peers. By taking ten minutes a day to just sit by yourself and read, write, or even just think, we can be reminded of what we enjoy and what defines us.

2. 'Me-time' gives you a break.

No matter how much we enjoy company, never having time alone can become exhausting. By designating a few minutes to sit with ourselves, we give ourselves a break. We can relax without being bothered by the world around us, which allows us to clear our minds and re-charge.

3. 'Me-time' helps discover things you never knew.

It is sometimes said that what we do in our free time explains what we truly love and who we truly are. If we never get this free time, how will we ever know? If we are able to be alone, we may able to discover details and interests about ourselves that we never even realized were there.

Our 'me-time' could be whatever we want it to be, just as long as we are making an effort to get it. It develops our interests, reminds us who we are, and brings us the calming moments we so desperately need in the midst of our daily lives. Take those ten, twenty, maybe even thirty minutes to delve into your inner-self and become the me you want to be.

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