Quality Over Quantity

Quality Over Quantity

Better alone than badly accompanied.

“Better alone than badly accompanied.”

I came across this quote daily after it became my neighbor’s motto. First, it had appeared on all of her social media bios, and eventually, it managed to earn a spot on her bedroom wall written in permanent marker.

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I had always admired the various phrases of inspiring words that were purposefully scattered across her room, and looked forward to the deep conversation that followed my newest discovery of a quote. My friendship with my neighbors, her and her sister, was one that never took a break. Even though we went to different schools, and may only see one another a month at a time, moments after being reunited, it was as if we had never left each other’s sides. Our relationship never changed; we simply continued our conversations as if no time had passed—something I later realized I would treasure greatly.

Yet out of all of the quotes we’d discovered and discussed, I assumed I knew what “better alone than badly accompanied” meant the most: why waste your time with people who don’t treat you right?

As time went on, I made the transition of being a freshman in college. After my first semester, I finally fully understand what those words mean.

Quality over quantity.

My understanding of ‘quality over quantity’ was only a small fraction of the complex equation I was going to face in college. College is the time to branch out, meet new people, dive into new opportunities, and finally discover your true self that was hidden underneath the layers and layers of repetitive high school requirements. It’s all a learning experience, and everyone handles their experiences differently.

For me, the first few weeks of my college experience were spent being bombarded with information on new clubs and organizations. After that, I absorbed. I laid low and slowly sorted through all of the opportunities in front of me. Occasionally, I attended some events here and there, and only met a few people I felt I could develop a trustworthy relationship with. There was just so much to try, and I didn’t want to rush into anything I’d regret.

As the first few months passed, I noticed that I wasn’t as consumed with activities as everyone else around me was. I started to go into panic mode, and question what I was doing wrong. My alone time I usually spent “thinking” was converted into the time I spent worrying if I was really utilizing my time at my university wisely. What was I doing differently? Why wasn’t I having the same experiences?

I took the time to fully adjust myself both mentally and physically into my new home before I jumped into new experiences with people I barely knew and overwhelmed myself. Taking the time to carefully pick and choose the organizations I wanted to devote my time to based off my interests paid off. It allowed me to create stronger, truer friendships from the start, rather than faking it until I made it like I felt I’d done in high school. In college, I am entirely in control of my choices, and how or to whom I devoted my time.

While I wasted my alone time by feeling guilty for not doing what everyone else was doing, I finally realized my time alone was precious, and there was nothing for me to feel guilty about. By being a bystander during the first couple weeks while everyone else around me chose their paths, I was given the privilege of realizing the importance of quality over quantity. As I questioned if I was participating in events I wanted to do, or events others wanted me to do, I realized who was keeping me sane. It was my neighbors, even though they were hours away. It was the girl I only met the previous week. It was my boyfriend who listened to my try to make sense of my future. College is about making your own path, but finding the people that support you along that path is just as important.

I discovered so much about myself this past semester, and I learned many overlooked life lessons. There are going to be so many people that you encounter who won’t approve of the way you do things, but that’s where my quote(s) come(s) in. In college, it’s easy to be persuaded by the majority, but it’s important to remember that having two or three people who truly support you is more beneficial than having ten who you assume are there for you, but aren’t. The amount of time you’ve known a person doesn’t determine their amount of trust. Sometimes, people you just meet have a deeper understanding of you, and your way of life—it’s a gift.

Finally, being “alone” rather than “badly accompanied” made sense. Sometimes rushing into things isn’t always the way to go, and if you’re uncomfortable, don’t do it. Take the time to make yourself happy first. Give yourself the time, respect, and credit to realize that just because you have a different method of handling life, doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. Enjoying time alone isn’t wrong. Individuality is a gift, and college is the best time to open it.

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When You Give A Girl A Dad

You give her everything

They say that any male can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. That dads are just the people that created the child, so to speak, but rather, dads raise their children to be the best they can be. Further, when you give a little girl a dad, you give her much more than a father; you give her the world in one man.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a rock.

Life is tough, and life is constantly changing directions and route. In a world that's never not moving, a girl needs something stable. She needs something that won't let her be alone; someone that's going to be there when life is going great, and someone who is going to be there for her when life is everything but ideal. Dads don't give up on this daughters, they never will.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a role model.

If we never had someone to look up to, we would never have someone to strive to be. When you give a little girl someone to look up to, you give her someone to be. We copy their mannerisms, we copy their habits, and we copy their work ethic. Little girls need someone to show them the world, so that they can create their own.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her the first boy she will ever love.

And I'm not really sure someone will ever be better than him either. He's the first guy to take your heart, and every person you love after him is just a comparison to his endless, unmatchable love. He shows you your worth, and he shows you what your should be treated like: a princess.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her someone to make proud.

After every softball game, soccer tournament, cheerleading competition, etc., you can find every little girl looking up to their dads for their approval. Later in life, they look to their dad with their grades, internships, and little accomplishments. Dads are the reason we try so hard to be the best we can be. Dads raised us to be the very best at whatever we chose to do, and they were there to support you through everything. They are the hardest critics, but they are always your biggest fans.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a credit card.

It's completely true. Dads are the reason we have the things we have, thank the Lord. He's the best to shop with too, since he usually remains outside the store the entire time till he is summoned in to forge the bill. All seriousness, they always give their little girls more than they give themselves, and that's something we love so much about you.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a shoulder to cry on.

When you fell down and cut yourself, your mom looked at you and told you to suck it up. But your dad, on the other hand, got down on the ground with you, and he let you cry. Then later on, when you made a mistake, or broke up with a boy, or just got sad, he was there to dry your tears and tell you everything was going to be okay, especially when you thought the world was crashing down. He will always be there to tell you everything is going to be okay, even when they don't know if everything is going to be okay. That's his job.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a lifelong best friend.

My dad was my first best friend, and he will be my last. He's stood by me when times got tough, he carried me when I just couldn't do it anymore, and he yelled at me when I deserved it; but the one thing he has never done was give up on me. He will always be the first person I tell good news to, and the last person I ever want to disappoint. He's everything I could ever want in a best friend and more.

Dads are something out of a fairytale. They are your prince charming, your knight in shinny amour, and your fairy godfather. Dads are the reasons we are the people we are today; something that a million "thank you"' will never be enough for.

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The Lazy Girl's Guide To The Gym

Also, everything else you should know if you're a slightly out-of-shape girl (like me).


With my freshman year coming to an end, I realized a lot of things. I made new friends, I found new hobbies, and I learned a lot of lessons. One of them being that the "Freshman 15" is very real and very scary.

While my friends and family have attempted multiple times to convince me that I'm just being dramatic (I am), I still want to make a change in my lifestyle or I will, in all seriousness, be on track to the "Sophomore 20".

Here is a list of my best gym and healthy lifestyle tips that I am slowly attempting to live by this summer in order to resurrect Emily's 18-year-old body and health.

1. Increase water intake.

2. Find a gym buddy.

3. Start off with cardio.

4. Don't stop on your cardio until you're dripping in sweat.

5. Chug a LOT of water an hour before the gym.

Do not do it right before, or you will be in pain.

6. Eat light beforehand but just enough to hold you over. 

7. Plan out what your routine will be BEFORE you get there.

My routine: Elliptical for a mile, Stairmaster for 10 minutes, ab HIIT workout for 10 minutes, 5 more minutes on Stairmaster.

8. Buy healthy foods while you're feeling motivated.

9. Find a gym that isn't too far from your house. 

10. Don't get mad at yourself if you don't see results in a day.

I know this is a hard one.

11. Try fitness classes. 

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