Cheating Has Become A Norm

Cheating Has Become A Norm

When did we start valuing our social media presence over people we used to love?


Recently, I found myself an hour outside of my hometown with all of the people I went to high school with, enjoying Saint Patrick's Day weekend.

A few minutes into being there, I already felt right at home again with some of my favorite people. Ironically, I didn't hang out with these people when I was actually in high school. Some of my closest friends have become so distant and out of reach, but I noticed that the people I never really spent the time getting to know are undoubtedly the most fun people I have ever encountered.

However, I also noticed a sad reality: those that were dating the same people they dated in high school were also cheating, visibly cheating around mutual friends. Nothing was said, and not one eyebrow was raised.

I asked my friends about it, and their response was, "Oh no it's mutual, they both cheat on each other when they're apart." The subject was dismissed as if it was old, irrelevant news. I guess I was late to that party.

I know that our generation has written off everything sweet and endearing about dating, but each day I am perplexed by just how far we have taken it.

Couples don't even make excuses anymore. It's as simple as cheating on each other during the weekends and sending sweet good morning texts on the weekdays as if it never happened. How many Instagram photos will it take for people to see through it all?

Thank God you got 800 likes, though! That definitely makes up for the time he or you just spent with someone else saying and doing the same things, right?

I thought Snap-chatting other people while you were dating someone else was disrespectful, but excuse my ignorance.

Apparently, you can openly cheat now and still post that, "Happy six months," series of photos later that night.

Will we ever start truly dating again? Or is that concept completely diminished?

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Dear Boyfriend, Thank You

Thank you, for all the little things you do.

Dear Boyfriend,

Thank you for being my best friend. When we're together, we're always laughing and joking around. I always have fun with you, and time flies when we're together. You're the first person I want to talk to when anything major happens, whether it be good or bad, and you're always there for me. You always know just what to say or do to cheer me up, and just being around you puts me in a better mood. I'd be devastated if our relationship ended, because in losing you, I'd be losing one of my best friends.

Thank you for telling me I'm wrong. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, thank you for braving my anger to give me a reality check. I may not want to hear it and I may lash out at you, but I hope you know I appreciate it.

Thank you for making me feel beautiful. You're constantly complimenting me, whether I'm dressed up or chillin' in sweats. You could care less whether or not I wear makeup or fix my hair because you're going to tell me I'm beautiful either way. Seeing the way you smile at me is the best confidence boost there is.

Thank you for loving me when I'm unlovable. I know I get in horrible moods sometimes and treat you unfairly. Thank you for rolling with the punches and not getting angry at me. I appreciate your patience more than you realize.

Thank you for surprising me. Whether it be flowers, donuts, or something else, you're constantly surprising me with little things that let me know you're thinking about me. The little things you do, don't go unnoticed.

Thank you for sharing your family with me. Your family treats me like I'm part of the family, and I love them like my own. They care about what you care about, and it's obvious from their openness that they think I'm important to you. Thank you for making it obvious to me and everyone else that I'm a priority in your life.

Thank you for being my plus one. Family events, school dances, doctor appointments, or whatever the case may be. We come as a package deal, and others have come to expect it. I can't go anywhere without someone asking why you're not with me, and I smile every time.

Thank you for taking care of me. You're constantly watching out for me, you give me your jacket when I'm cold, you make me walk on the inside of the street, you check my car to make sure it's working properly. You've held my hand at the doctor's office and brought me ice cream at 12:00 midnight. You always seem to know what I need, even if I don't realize it myself.

Thank you for making me feel secure. I know, without a doubt, you would never do anything to hurt me and that I can trust you in any situation. That quality is so rare in guys nowadays, and I'm so lucky to have found it in you.

Thank you for being such an amazing person. I'm so lucky to have you, and I wouldn't want anyone else.

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