You Can't Be A Good Person If You're Not Honest With People

You Can't Be A Good Person If You're Not Honest With People

Good people have no reason not to be honest.


Honesty is a hard quality to come by, and frankly, I don't know why. It's very easy to be honest, especially if you have nothing to hide. That's why when people refuse to be honest, it's hard to see them as a good person.

This idea comes up in relationships and dating. Those who aren't honest cause a lot of level-headed people to freak out. A common theme of dating is to tell someone that you're just not ready for a relationship. Instead of just blurting out that bullshit, overused line, why not just be honest with the person you're talking to? If you're not into them, just say so. I mean, say it nicely but be honest. Don't play the "not ready for a relationship" card just because you're a selfish person that wants to keep this person around for your own benefit. If you really just want to be FWB, be honest and tell them.

On the other hand, if you're talking to someone and you decide you don't want to pursue anything anymore, just tell them instead of leading them on. I promise it will save you both time and unnecessary headaches. No one wants to sit around and try to figure out what you're up to. Just be upfront.

The same goes for relationships. Instead of going out and cheating on your partner, perhaps be honest with them about how you're feeling. Communicate. It won't be easy, but you'll be honest.

To go through life constantly lying to get your way seems awfully exhausting. If you find that you need to constantly lie and hide the truth to others, perhaps that's a sign you're not being a very good person. Good people have no reason not to be honest.

You can't spend your time lying to those around you and expect to be called a good person because you're not flat-out being mean to anyone. It doesn't work like that. Being a good person actually takes work and a commitment to not being a jack ass. I'm tired of people claiming to be good just because they haven't set out to hurt anyone. Newsflash; only thinking about yourself in a situation means that you don't care how other's are affected, which makes you a bad person. If you lie to protect yourself but allow others to get hurt in the process, you're not a good person, you're the worst kind.

So before you get yourself caught in a bad situation, just try to not be a massive douche for a second and be honest.

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1. You take on way more than you can handle because the word "no" is not a part of your vocabulary.

2. When you actually do have the courage to say no, you feel like the worst person in the world.

3. People take advantage of you like it's their job.

4. Your kindness is often mistaken for weakness — people neglect to realize that even the nice girls have backbones.

5. You entertain every Tom, Dick and Harry because you don't have the heart to say, "F*** off!"

6. You feel that you need to keep everyone around you happy.

7. Always forgetting to keep yourself happy in the process.

8. Sometimes you wonder if your purpose in life is simply to please everyone around you.

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5 Signs Your Boyfriend Might Be A Dirty Rotten Cheater

Now that we have Valentine's Day behind us, I finally feel comfortable bursting your precious love bubble and giving you the real tea on how all of those things you're questioning about your boyfriend are probably just signs he's cheating on you.


I just spent the last week with my jaw on the floor after the discovery that my best friend spent the better part of 2 years with a guy who was actually cheating ( a lot ) basically the entire length of their relationship. And now that we have Valentine's Day behind us, I finally feel comfortable bursting your precious love bubble and giving you the real tea on how all of those things you're questioning about your boyfriend are probably just signs he's cheating on you. If you encounter any of the following 5 signs, then girl you better get the hell outta dodge.

1. You NEVER get the invite to family gatherings.


Brunch with the fam? He's not calling you. Christmas Eve at Aunt Sheryl's? He's not calling you. His sister's birthday party? He's definitely not calling you. It may not seem like a big deal at first, but if he has met your mom, your dad, and your cousins and still isn't inviting you to come along, it's probably because he doesn't want his mom to get confused that he had a totally different girl over last week.

2. He can't stand you being anywhere near his phone.

Cheater's Phone

I would think this one is an obvious red flag, but you'd be surprised how many people believe guys who say they just want you to "respect their privacy." If he is constantly texting, snapping and shoving his phone into his pocket immediately after hitting that lock screen, you may very well be in for a world of hurt. If it's going off at 2 AM, well girl, I shouldn't have to say more to convince you he's cheating.

3. You rarely go out in public.


I know, I know, he's told you a hundred times that he's just a homebody and would rather be snuggled up watching "Catfish" with you than going out anywhere, but that's probably because he is just scared you guys will run into his other girlfriend. If you do end up going out, it's always out of town or something loud and crowded like a concert where you guys would be hard to spot.

4. He NEVER wants to post about you two on social media.

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He says stuff like "Oh, I just don't feel the need to publicize our love." or maybe "I have a crazy ex and I don't want her to harass you online." Those are both actually just lies. What he really wants to say is "I just don't want evidence and time stamps of our relationship in case I get caught." The best is when they tell you about how they like girls who are off the grid. Sounds like a cheater to me...

5. He's constantly accusing you of cheating.


Most girls I know will chalk this up to him just being a jealous guy. But let me tell you something honey, nothing makes you more paranoid than a guilty conscious. If every time you two argue, it divulges into him saying he's not sure if he can trust you or that you have too many guy friends or that he wonders what you're doing on nights without him, well he's probably just manifesting his own fears.

There are no promises here that he is definitely cheating, and if you really trust your man then more power to you. But if any of these signs had you thinking about your own relationship, then I highly recommend that you move on to the next one girl. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, even fish who won't cheat on you!

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