My Boyfriend Went From A Stranger To My Best Friend And I Wouldn't Change A Thing

My Boyfriend Went From A Stranger To My Best Friend And I Wouldn't Change A Thing

Through time, learning secrets and long talks, we've become best friends in addition to BF/GF.


I always hear people say that the best relationships start when the two of you start off as best friends, as you already have a connection and now you're just building on it. However, that's not the way my relationship started.

We didn't know each other and had only run into one another a few times. An instant connection drew us together and we started dating very soon after. Month after month, we learned more about each other and went from just dating to also being best friends.

Soon, there was no one else I would call to vent to. No one else I trust so completely. It didn't matter that we weren't best friends before, because we built that together knowing we wanted it.

All we had to build off of was a spark and butterflies in our stomachs when we saw each other.

When we first started dating, I didn't know your favorite drink or any funny family stories. It's all something we had to talk about, something we had to bring up and learn. Everything was new in the beginning, and now I can almost tell his stories better than he can.

A lot of trust and communication paved the road to the amazing place my relationship is in now. We learned each other's quirks and paid attention, and suddenly, it didn't matter that I hadn't known him before. After a while, it felt like I had known him my whole life because it just felt so natural and right. As for his favorite drink, it's lemonade and the glass must always be filled all the way to the top. It's all about the small things.

Through the months, we've shared our hearts and our secrets. I could call him for anything and I know he will always be there. Listening to my feelings and my concerns about the world and my life and making me feel better, word by word.

Our bond is the way it is because we started out as strangers. We didn't already have that familiarity that friends who start dating already have. Everything that we are now is because two people put in the effort to learn and love.

I wouldn't change a single thing about the way that we met. I would keep the cheesy pickup line and the awkward asking for my phone number conversation. Now, he's my absolute best friend and the person that hears everything first. I know that even though he's my boyfriend, I can be open and honest about anything. Because no matter what it is or what's happening, we can handle it together.

I don't think that you really have to be best friends before you start dating. I think the real test is if you're able to be best friends even when dating. That's the real test.

I am so thankful for my best friend and the greatest boyfriend a girl could ask for.

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I'm Still Friends With My High School Besties As A Senior In College, And I'm So Thankful For That

New friends are silver but the old ones are gold.


As you near the end of high school, it seems like everyone is telling you, "enjoy spending time with your friends now, because once you start college you'll drift apart." At the time, no one wants to believe it, but I will say there definitely is some truth in that. There were 800 people in my high school graduating class, but there's only a handful of those people who I've actually hung out with since our graduation parties. However, it's certainly not true about all friends. I'm now a senior in college, and I'm still friends with my high school best friends.

While things have definitely been different since we've been in college, our friendship hasn't changed. In high school we bonded over the French classes that we took together and our love for dance. Although we don't see each other every day in class anymore or after school at dance practice, that's only made me more appreciative of the time that we do get to spend all together. I always look forward to that time, whether it's spent going on adventures, laughing together at a coffee shop or even just sitting at home and watching a movie.

I've made a lot of amazing friends in college, but there's still something comforting about having friends who knew you as an awkward 14-year-old who you can turn to and reminisce about the past with. We may not talk to each other every day and we often go months without all three of us being together, but when we are together again we pick up right where we left off. No matter how far apart we are physically, I know they'll be there for me in an instant, whenever I need them (even if FaceTime is the best we can do).

I know I'm not the only person to stay friends with their high school best friends, but I also know that many people don't. So I'm so thankful that this friendship has continued on past our four years of high school. As we get ready to head into the next chapter of our lives in a few months, a lot is going to change all over again. I don't know if we'll ever live out our high school dream of living together in the city or even when the next time we'll all be living in the same state will be, but our friendship has made it this far and I know it won't end here.

Caitlin and Andrea, thanks for sticking by my side for the past four years. Here's to all the memories we have yet to make together.

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There's Nothing Wrong With Meeting The Love Of Your Life On A Dating Site

In such a tech-savvy world, why are we so afraid to admit that we found love online?


Growing up watching rom-coms like "When Harry Met Sally" and "Notting Hill," I've always been a bit of a romantic. I can't count the number of times I've constructed in my mind a completely unrealistic meet-cute where I would find the love of my life. I mean, who doesn't want their own fairy tale romance?

But in this age of social media and dating apps, the chances of accidentally bumping into your soulmate is slim to none. Dating apps like Bumble and Tinder are becoming ever so popular, with more and more individuals meeting their significant other online. So why is it that in such a tech-savvy society, people are still afraid to admit that they found love online?

I blame romantic comedies. Even though many romantic comedies are focused on being "realistic," the chances of me meeting the LOML at a carnival when he decides to climb up the Ferris wheel to talk to me (*cough* "The Notebook" *cough*) are highly unlikely. We've become so fixated on the idea of this perfect relationship that it becomes almost inferior to meet someone through a dating app.

But it's time the stigma ended. Who cares where you met your significant other? Sure, maybe you originally swiped right on Tinder with the sole intention of hooking up, but life happens.

It shouldn't matter that you didn't meet in some crazy, over-the-top fashion.

And sure, there's nothing wrong in hoping for a romantic comedy worthy meet-cute, but you shouldn't let modern cinema dictate your relationship. There's no shame in saying that you met your boyfriend or girlfriend on a dating app. I mean, what are these apps meant for? Meeting online doesn't in any way take away from the legitimacy of one's relationship. So instead of focusing on these so-called perfect moments, let's focus on building perfect relationships because life isn't always a movie.

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