The other night my friend called me, seemingly overwhelmed and on the brink of tears. She told me about her experience with a boy she was interested in and I did what any friend would, I listened to her and gave her advice. However, that experience made me reevaluate some of my opinions. Later that night I realized: we value others too much.
As human beings we tend to see ourselves are part of a bigger whole, we feel incomplete without others. It essentially a pack mentality, but we are not animals. We idolize the concept of soulmates and long for someone to fill our void. But we don’t realize that we are capable of surviving independently.
That night I told my friend that she did not need a significant other to make her happy, that she was capable of attaining a wonderful life without someone else. Now of course she argued with my point, but I understood why. We have been thought to think this way since birth it is a hard concept to abandon.
Make yourself a priority. You can’t wait for someone to complete you, you have to complete yourself. It may seem selfish, but you have to learn to put yourself first, it’s the only way to be completely happy. If you keep putting the needs of others before your own needs you will fall into the habit of making others happy at your own cost.
Happiness is not something others should bring, you should attain it yourself. Now everyone has a different opinion on happiness, you should find someone or something that makes you feel happy, but don’t assign associate worth and happiness together.
