It’s never going to be easy when you are dating someone who is an overthinker. The way our brains work is like a constant flow of thoughts just going through at about 100 mph. As I sit here writing this article, I am currently overthinking this as well. What if I don’t get any shares? Am I going to look stupid with what I have to say? This doesn’t sound right… Is this even worth writing about? It just keeps on going, it never stops, and to be honest this will also be on my mind tomorrow as soon as I wake up in the morning.
Now picture this in a relationship. The “what-if’s” are a constant. The thoughts that are going through your mind are going to happen, as much as you try to not think the way you do. You are going to ask yourself what will happen between you and your significant other. You are going to stay up all night, tossing back and forth wide awake. You're going to check your texts every five minutes just to make sure they answered you even though you never hit the send button. It’s so hard to maintain a healthy, good relationship because there will always be a fear that the person you are with isn't going to like you tomorrow, or you're going to do or say something that is going to turn them off. You're going to begin to wonder if it’s a trust issue or if it’s just your brain playing silly games. You're going to stare at yourself in the mirror and compare yourself to everyone else and worry about being too fat, or too skinny… that’s going to make you think about the other girls and how you can be just as pretty as they are so maybe your significant other will like you just a little bit more. It’s going to happen all the time whether you like it or not. Your partner is going to become distant because, lets face it, how many times could you question or ask them the same thing? It is going to become annoying and their patience is going to run low.
All you have to do is breath, take a deep breath and realize what you have in front of you. Don’t be afraid to ask for reassurance. That is all we overthinkers need. You are going to need your partner to tell them how it really is, especially when the questioning becomes a little bit to much. This doesn’t have to happen all the time but it needs to happen. You’re going to need to feel appreciated, we all need to feel loved because if not, we aren’t going to know what your thinking.
Life is going to throw some rough obstacles your way. You're going to think the worst of people who are the best. You're going to push people away but the people who really matter will stay. It will all be okay. If you're partner loves you, they will love you through it all.
