Ask Swoonie B: I'm In Love With My Ex, But He Only Wants Sex
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I'm In Love With My Ex But He Wants Nothing From Me But Sex

One reader asks for advice on whether she should go after or ditch her ex.

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I'm In Love With My Ex But He Wants Nothing From Me But Sex

Each week Swoonie B will give her advice on anonymous topics submitted by readers. Want to Ask Swoonie B something related to dating and relationships? Fill out this form here — it's anonymous.

I'm going to cut right to the chase and say DITCH HIM. Literally, that's the advice.

Just kidding. Of course I'll elaborate... but I wanted the advice on this one to be crystal clear from the beginning, for a number of reasons.

For starters, from just this little snippet of information you gave me, I can promise you that you are far better off without him in your life constantly reminding you that you're broken up. The fact that he thinks he still deserves to have sex with you after he dumped you and told you he wants nothing else to do with you after a two-year relationship is, to put it nicely, absolutely INSULTING.

You, my darling, are worth so much more than the way he is treating you right now.

As much as it hurts (and, trust me, I know the pain), he will have that power over you until you put your foot down, despite how much it hurts, and demand better for yourself.

After two years of a relationship, there's no turning back to "friends with benefits," especially if one of you still has feelings. We want none of that messiness.

After a long-term relationship, if he doesn't want all of you, he shouldn't be allowed to have some of you. That's not how this works.

If he was a decent person, he would want more for you than this. It's time to rip the Band-Aid off and start the healing process without him constantly breaking the wound back open. You are worthy of so so much more than this ridiculous treatment and if he can't recognize this, then that's his loss.

In the end, if you tell him to "F off" because you're done with being treated like this, he'll have to listen.

I'm rooting for you! We're all rooting for you! You deserve the type of love and affection you give to someone else, please never question that. As much as it will hurt, you can do it. Be strong and ditch him — because you're so much better off without him.

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