We All Need To Start Taking The Ariana Approach To Love

We All Need To Start Taking The Ariana Approach To Love, Thank U, Next

She taught me love. She taught me patience. How she handles pain. That sh*t's amazing.


Everybody needs love, and yet, everyone tends to put their energy into loving other people.

Loving yourself is an answer to some issues. Self-esteem is the key to this! It is simply the best blessing you can give. Individuals who cherish themselves live a fulfilled and glad life. The only person you can always rely on is yourself. You can't ever depend on another person for your happiness or well-being. After the hurt and experiences I've been through, I've learned that the most important and secure love is the one you have with yourself. Ariana Grande finally learned that, too.

"She taught me love. She taught me patience. How she handles pain. That sh*t's amazing. I've loved and I've lost. But that's not what I see. 'Cause look what I've found. Ain't no need for searching." — Ariana Grande

So how do I do that?

Have you heard individuals say you can't love others until the point when you adorn yourself? Then again, don't anticipate that others will love you until the point that you adore yourself. In any case, you need to cherish yourself and that is the key to a glad and fulfilled life!

Change your thoughts.

Self-perception is simply the manner in which we think. It incorporates the manner in which we look, walk, talk, or do anything! Unfortunately, a major issue with us teens is that our self-discernment is extremely poor. At the end of the day, we regularly disparage ourselves! We don't have the foggiest idea about our actual potential.

Forget your flaws for a while.

The key is to love yourself so much that you won't have enough time to think about the negative things. But in reality, every person is immaculate. When you adore yourself of all the solid focuses that you have and tolerate our own imperfections, you will have a feeling of appreciation towards life. Not only will you adore yourself, but you will likewise begin to cherish other individuals and tolerate their imperfections, as well.

Pamper yourself!

Life truly is very hectic and we hardly get time for ourselves. But that doesn't mean you keep neglecting yourself. So take out time from your hectic schedule and listen to your heart. Do something special for yourself and pamper yourself. It can be anything — drinking hot coffee at midnight, listening to soft music, getting a message, going to a spa, or simply sitting outside while it's raining! Just make sure you pamper yourself once in a while.

So go ahead. Love yourself. Be good to yourself. Treat yourself well. Replenish yourself. You will discover that the more you love yourself, the more you will be able to give love to others — and the more others will want to be around you and give love back to you. This is a win-win situation. Loving yourself will ultimately benefit the lives of others you encounter, as well as your own life.

But where does your love come from?

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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