To the man who will steal her heart,
You’re walking around on Earth right now. You’ve popped up in late night conversations and daydreams that fill her head. She’s already thought about the first date, the first kiss, and the moment you say “I love you.” Right now you are a thought without a physical description in mind. One day, you will show up and sweep her off her feet, and when that day comes, I’ll have to be prepared to let her go.
I am writing to you so I can have a simple peace of mind because the day you walk into her life, you can read this, and know the person that I know.
Her favorite phrase to say is “I can’t...” even though I know she always can. I don’t know if there is a moment where she isn’t doubting her capability to step outside of her comfort zone. You need to remind her that she can. You will see how much she has to offer this world, and wonder why she doesn’t see what you see. Remember, we all see things a little differently.
I don’t know if you are a messy freak or a clean freak but she is a triple clean freak. So, when she folds your clothes differently than your mom used to, let her. When you are wanting to just turn out the light and go to bed and she is wrestling around trying to tidy up her room at night, let her. There is no stopping the OCD side of her. You will learn to love it.
She is not like other girls, so be honest with her when she asks you if this top makes her shape look funny or if this hairstyle makes her face look chubby. If you have trouble being honest, call me, and I will coach you through it.
There will be days where you will see her in a really cute outfit in the morning and then you see her later in the day and she has completely changed. Don’t question it. She likes changing multiple times a day. I will never understand why but that is one of her many quirks.
She is the kind of person who is content with sitting at home, binging her favorite show on Netflix. Don’t force her to go places all the time.
She is happy with chicken tenders and french fries so forget that nice Italian restaurant down the street. Oh, and stay away from seafood!
To know her is to understand her anxiety. If you don’t understand what floods her mind then you will be confused. What makes her unique is her mind because it is constantly on the go.
Don’t be afraid to ask her about her anxiety. Let her tell you what keeps her mind going all of the time. There will come a point in time when you want to push her so far to get out of her comfort zone but just remember, it does take time. When she does have a breaking point, remind her to just breathe through it.
The number one most important thing to know about her is that you will never be her number one. Wait, what? I bet you're thinking that her number one is her crazy best friend. Actually, God is. You will never come close to the relationship that she has with God. It is the most complex, confusing, complicated, and all-knowing relationships that you could possibly have. My hope is that she will never be your #1 because you place God higher than her. If you have Him at the center of your whole life then you will definitely have her love.
As much as I don’t want you to reveal yourself to her now, I know you will soon. You see, she has been that one person in my life who challenges me in all areas. I fear that one day, there will be no challenges but that is where faith comes in; faith in God, faith in her, and faith in our friendship.
When you see her, you are going to love her. Maybe you will even meet in that cute little vintage coffee shopped that she daydreamed about.
It’s all in God’s time. It’s all when she is ready. I wonder if you are ready.
Sincerely,
The Crazy Best Friend
