I think we can all agree that we've been in relationships or talked to someone where your significant other doesn't like some of your friends or even don't like you hanging out with the opposite gender. And to me, jealousy is okay. It just makes you like or even love the person even more... but sometimes, jealousy can be a little too much, and sometimes really scary.
This past summer, I met a guy on Tinder and we really seemed to hit it off. We didn't really have a lot in common, but I truly believe opposites attract. He was completely different from me, but I didn't care because we always had something different to talk about. For almost 2 months we talked and I really thought a relationship was going to come out of it. We talked for hours a day and things were going great, but when we hung out, things just seemed... different. He wasn't the same person to me and some things just seemed a little off. He was quiet and couldn't really hold a conversation. I just kept making excuses that he was shy or that he wasn't comfortable yet. After a while, it just seemed to get old.
Whenever I wanted to go out, he always made excuses that he didn't have money, but he would go out and buy video games and drugs. His idea of a date was to get high or to watch him play video games. He never wanted to just go for a drive or walk around the mall because he didn't want to be around too many people. When I would go to work, I would check my phone to multiple text messages because he thought I was ignoring him. Our conversations would continuously lead to who I was going out with, why I was always out with my friends, who was the guy in my snapchat story. It was to the point where it wasn't even fun anymore. I needed to leave.
Finally after almost half of the summer, I left. I completely blocked him out of my life and told him I couldn't do it anymore. At first, it was really weird to not wake up to text messages from him and no longer attempting to make plans to hang out. Almost 6 months later and he has a girl friend who I pray never has to experience with what I went through. I hope she knows how to stick up for herself and realize when enough is enough and I hope he's happy with a new love interest. As for me, I've realized that I'm not ready to jump into something that fast again. I've recently met someone and I'm taking it one day at a time. So my advice to anyone out there, girls especially, is to make sure you know the difference between right and wrong. Know that a boy is supposed to treat you with respect and not be controlling. You can have fun, but don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't do. Make youself happy first.
