A few weeks ago, I was looking through my yearbook and remembering my high school experiences and I couldn’t help but find humor in the insignificant things I once thought were so important. Everything from what I wore to school, to where I sat in class seemed very important. Looking back, it shows a different viewpoint now than what I had at the time so here are four pieces of advice I’d give to my high school self.
It’s all about perspective.
Remember those plans you had that fell through at the last minute? I know to a high school student that’s like drowning. Your mom offered to make it a fun night – you got in your pajamas, ate loads of junk food and watched your favorite series on Netflix all night. At the time you were pretty mortified, but years later, you’ll realize that it’s one of your most cherished memories Plus, it goes without saying that it will also be far more meaningful than that lame party you considered attending.
Don’t worry about timing.
You know how you were so aware of what everyone else did? That girl in your History class that had her first boyfriend four years before you did? How some people were already driving while you were trying not to fail your permit test? Here is an important tip: don’t worry about anyone else. Do what works for you. This is not something that pertains to high school but the rest of your life. Get an early start so that when you’re older, it won’t matter if someone else has a job/husband/house/kids since that doesn’t matter to you anymore. Instead of feeling competitive or getting down on yourself, embrace the fact that everyone is different and learn to celebrate those around you.
Appreciate your lifestyle.
A full course load in addition to extracurricular activities seems like a lot to handle. I get it. But let me break it to you: it’s not. You have virtually no responsibilities: you live with your parents, there are no bills to pay and your meals are cooked for you. Talk less about the amount of work you have. This applies to adulthood since nobody likes to listen to that girl who’s constantly complaining about her stress level.
Social status doesn’t matter.
When you’re in high school, it’s easy to get caught up in the social scene – who you’re hanging out with, if you’re nominated for Homecoming Queen or where you sit to eat your lunch. But none of that matters. If you’re able to move between groups and socialize with everyone, you’ll be much more well-rounded. So treat the kids in the band with you (and embrace the fact that you’re clarinet section leader instead of being embarrassed) the same way as you would to anyone else. Be nice to everyone and don’t get caught up on how you’re perceived.
