I am a strong believer that in today's society we have lost the sense of what true love really is and have replaced it with the temporary comfort that lust brings us when we "hookup" with one another. If you have ever decided to go out with your girls one weekend, you know that having expectations that you will magically find Mr. Right on the sticky, frat house dance floor while dancing to Panda is unrealistic.
Don't get me wrong, meeting someone new and being a little touchy and flirty can be very exciting. We naturally crave attention and acceptance from others. When a cute guy shows interest in me, you better believe that I won't leave without getting his number (and even a goodnight kiss). However, when a guy comes straight up to me and specifically asks if I just want to hookup, it's the biggest turnoff ever and I immediately lose interest.
First of all, when this happens I'm highly offended that you think that just by telling me a few generic comments about my appearance that you think I would be willing to sleep with you.
Have you never heard of STDs?
Pregnancy?
FEELINGS??
Seriously, I don't care how attractive or desirable you are.
As a girl who actually values the meaning of a relationship, the dating scene in this day in time is terrible. During my whole career in college not once have I dated a guy that hasn't tried to pull something before we even go on the third date. Is it so much to ask that a guy simply just wants to date me because I don't know... he actually likes me for me? After going over this topic many, many times, here are a few tips for all the girls out there who actually value being in a relationship.
1. DO NOT stop going out.
Even though you're most likely going to run into a few guys that will inappropriately hit on you, just ignore them and keep dancing with all your girls. Trust me, they will move on to the next girl they see and annoy her till they get lucky. Don't let the immature college boys keep you from enjoying your night.
2. Be straight-up with them.
I can guarantee you the best way to tell if he's interested in just sex is to literally tell them you're not interested in hooking up with them. If he's actually interested in getting to know you, having sex or not won't be a deal breaker for him.
3. Know "Netflix and Chill" is never just "Netflix and Chill."
Although almost everyone knows that the movie almost never gets watched, just know this especially true in college. I'm not sure how the guy feels, but what exactly is sexy about hooking-up on a couch with the possibility of your roommates walking in and listening to the background of a show. Without going into too much detail, just be prepared for the awkward space between you two on the couch when he realizes he's not getting any that night.
4. Just own you, boo.
Let's face it, right now dating sucks. However, in about 10 years when all of these college boys decided to grow up and be men, they're going to want the girl who didn't sleep with a lot of guys in college. For now, just know your self worth and own the spotlight. Who needs a man anyways?
