Advice I Give Others That I Should Learn To Use Myself

Advice I Give Others That I Should Learn To Use Myself

The master needs to be the student sometimes.


People come to me all the time for advice because apparently I can be very wise and to be honest, I've gone through a lot in my short 21 years. I try to have a very neutral stance on the advice I give because I want people to make their own choice as it is not my life that is being affected in the situations people need help with. I take the "put myself in their shoes" approach because I tell them what I personally would do in a situation but always reassure them that is ultimately up to them and what they want to do.

I should learn to take my own advice but I fail miserably because I feel that same doubt that people have when they ask for some helpful tips from me.

Here are some wise words I give others but should really take for my own good:

1. "They're not worth your tears"

I say this to my friends who have dating problems but yet when I have those problems, I can't help but cry. Boys are definitely not worth my tears but I get too emotional each time my heart gets broken.

2. "Get your sh*t together"

Yeah, so stop procrastinating and leaving things to the very last minute @ myself

3. "You'll find a great person eventually"

I say this a lot yet then after giving this advice, I immediately go on Tinder or Bumble SMH

4. "Shoot your shot sis"

I am a massive wuss and the only shot I always would rather shoot is a basketball one because I fear rejection more than most things.

5. "Drop them, they're so toxic"

Whether it's been platonic or romantic, I don't have the heart to let someone go even when they're bad for me. I usually wait to get dropped by that toxic person because I am a massive wuss as I stated earlier.

6. "Recognize your worth"

I constantly bring myself down while I tell others to not do the same. I gotta start to try to remind myself that I am kind, I am smart, and I am important, ALWAYS.

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You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better.

“It's so amazing when someone comes to your life and you expect nothing out of it, but suddenly, there right in front of you is everything you ever need."


Dear Unexpected Best Friend,

You were the person I never thought I would speak to and now you are my very best friend. You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better. I can't thank you enough for everything you have done to shape me into the person I am today. You've taught me what it means to be selfless, caring, patient, and, more importantly, adventurous.

You don't realize how much better my life has become and all because you came out of nowhere. I didn't see you coming. I just saw you on occasion, and now I can't see my life without you in it. It's funny how life works itself out like that. Our unexpected friendship filled a hole in my life that I didn't know existed.

I don't even remember what life was like before you came along; it most likely had a lot less laughter and spontaneity than it does today. I can call you about anything and you would drop whatever you're doing to help me in any situation. You know when I need encouragement. You know when I am at my best and when I am at my worst. You always know exactly what to say.

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I couldn't have found a better friend than you if I tried. We balance each other out in the best way possible. You are most definitely the yin to my yang, and I don't care how cliché that sounds. Because of you, I've learned to stop caring what people think and to do my own thing regardless of any backlash I might receive. You are my very favorite part of what makes me who I am to this day.

It's as if I wished up a best friend, and poof — you appeared right in front of me. I am so beyond blessed to have you and I wouldn't trade the world for all our memories. Thanks for coming out of nowhere.

Love you forever and a day.

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No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

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We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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