Some of you might have heard of the saying "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus." Even if you haven't, its meaning is clear: men and women are very different, so different that they are literally worlds apart. However, males and females can also greatly compliment each other.
As a girl who probably has more male friends than female friends, I have seen the way guys operate, and while they can be loud, gross, and annoying, they are usually really fun to be around. In spending time with my guy friends, I have realized a few things that us women can learn from our male counterparts.
1. Don't overthink everything
As women, we like to play through all possible scenarios and what-ifs of a situation, when really we have no control over how things turn out. Guys, on the other hand, tend to let things be what they are. There is really no point in dwelling on the tiniest of details or wondering what's going to happen next.
2. Be low-maintenance.
This is not to say that all girls are high-maintenance or that all guys are low-maintenance. However, while girls usually spend an hour (or longer) getting ready to go out--doing hair and makeup, trying on ten different outfits, etc.--only to complain that we look bloated or ugly, guys throw on jeans and a t-shirt and call it a day. I know appearance is important and it sure feels good to look good, but if we stopped worrying so much about these superficial details and just went with the flow, we would definitely have a lot more fun.
3. Stop caring what other people think.
Because all that really matters is your opinion of yourself. If you're happy and you're not causing anyone harm, let people think what they want. That's their problem, not yours.
4. Bros before hoes.
I don't think I have ever seen any of my male friends sacrifice their friendship over a girl. It's just not worth it. If a girl is causing a large issue between two guys, they always choose each other over the girl. As a female, I have definitely experienced conflict with a friend due to a disagreement about a boy, and let me tell you, it really sucks. Guys will come and go, but your friendships--especially your close ones--should last a lifetime.
5. Stop holding grudges.
So often, women get into arguments that end up lasting for days, or even weeks. It really doesn't help anyone to hold onto bitterness, so why don't we take a note from guys, and sort out the issue as soon as possible. We're obviously not going to wrestle it out and have a beer, but we can definitely be more reasonable about fixing our conflicts.
6. Be rational when you're upset.
This kind of relates to my last point. Women, when angry, tend to jump to conclusions, become explosive, and irrational. Instead of being rash, we need to chill, think about things realistically and logically, and then address our anger.
7. Don't gossip so much.
I have a good amount of guy friends, and I very rarely hear any of them talking sh*t about other people. If they have a comment to make, they either pose it as a joke or keep it to themselves. Us girls love gossip. I am definitely guilty of it at times. It's fun to be "in the know", but we need to remember that if we don't want people in our personal business, then we shouldn't be involved in theirs.
8. Take a joke.
Guys are constantly joking around with each other, usually in an insulting manner. It is in our female instinct to be offended by this sort of thing, but it's good to be able to laugh at yourself sometimes. And having a sense of humor helps you to connect with people
9. Don't be emotional about everything.
Yes, we are allowed to have emotions and express them. It's healthy to be in touch with your feelings and emotions. But we don't have to be emotional all the time. Guys get a bad reputation for not showing enough emotion, but sometimes we need to detach emotions from situations in order to think rationally and practically.
