6 Things Everyone Forgets While Planning A Wedding

6 Things Everyone Forgets While Planning A Wedding

These are just as important as the venue, food, and dress.
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Other than myself, there are so many girls that begin dreaming about their wedding day at an early age. I blame all the fairy tales and Disney princess movies for that phenomenon. The ones that usually end in some great love and a perfect wedding day that is magically put together in no time at all. The thing is, I don't remember ever seeing any movie that showed all the work that went into planning a wedding... Unless we're talking about the movie "Father of the Bride". Then you will end up looking a little like this when the day comes that you are planning your own and can see all the things that you have to do, and have no idea where to begin.

And while this milestone has a lot of planning, expenses, and little details that need to be paid attention to, there are somethings that every bride/groom should remember throughout the process.

1. Remember to sit down and dream.

Before you jump into all the planning, sit down with your fiance and just talk. Talk about what you want and what you picture that day being like. If you were one of those kids who dreamed about your big day, tell them about all the things that you believe that you want. Don't pin yourselves down so soon after the proposal with talk of money and just dream together.

2. Remember to bask in the glow.

In the middle of all the fuss, let yourself remember why you are going through all the events to follow. Make sure to see that, through all of the plans and all of the craziness, you are madly in love with the man/woman you're going to marry. That, no matter what, you will end up with the person you want to be with. Don't be ashamed to act a little twitterpated, no matter your age. No matter the time.

3. Remember why it is a day to celebrate.

While you should have fun and enjoy all the plans, food tastings, parties, venues, and more, don't forget that all the aspects the go into that day are just things. You are going to be celebrating the joining of two peoples' lives become one. You will be celebrating the promise you are making in front of friends and family. Don't get too caught up in all the materials that go toward the celebration. If something goes wrong, just remember what you will be there to do.

4. Remember to stop and smell the roses.

When you are in the middle of comparing finances and the cost of your dream venue, take a moment to look up. See those people around you. Laugh at all the ridiculous things that you are sure to encounter. Hear what they are saying. Keep it in mind for later times of tribulation to come. Stop to look at your fiance and smile in anticipation of you two becoming married. Just take a breath.

5. Remember to make memories.

Are you trying on your tenth dress? Maybe starting to feel like it's hopeless and you're not going to find the right one? Well, try on another dress that you never would have usually put on and go out to the people with you. No matter what dress it is, or how bad it looks, go and strut your stuff. Enjoy the reactions of your friends and family and allow yourself to giggle a little at yourself. Or, maybe you and your bride tribe are getting frustrated at all the individual demands. Stop everything and do something that you and your friends have always enjoyed. If you are making your own invitations, grab the tape and do something ridiculous just to get everyone laughing. Make memories that you will be able to look back on in the future.

6. Remember that it is a day for you and your fiance.

While it is important that your family and friends are comfortable on your big day, don't change everything that you want your day to be, just to make them happy. Especially not if it will compromise your happiness. Remember that it is your day, not theirs. And when it comes to their time to get married, it will be all about them. Don't over exert yourself by trying to make everyone else happy, because it is impossible to please everyone.

While planning your wedding will seem like an impossible task when you first begin, in the end, make sure that it is something that you will want to look back on fondly. I know that I will be trying to remember these things while planning mine. Whether it is a big ordeal, or a small, intimate celebration, make sure to enjoy it. Allow yourself to get swept away on the excitement. Let yourself talk about the romance. Go ahead and believe that your big day will be just like a fairy tale and enjoy it even more because of all the work you put into it. Just remember who you are and why you're getting married in the first place.

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Bailey Posted A Racist Tweet, But That Does NOT Mean She Deserves To Be Fat Shamed

As a certified racist, does she deserve to be fat shamed?
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This morning, I was scrolling though my phone, rotating between Instagram, Snapchat, YouTube and Snapchat again, ignoring everyone's snaps but going through all the Snapchat subscription stories before stumbling on a Daily Mail article that piqued my interest. The article was one about a teen, Bailey, who was bullied for her figure, as seen on the snap below and the text exchange between Bailey and her mother, in which she begged for a change of clothes because people were making fun of her and taking pictures.

Like all viral things, quickly after her text pictures and harassing snaps surfaced, people internet stalked her social media. But, after some digging, it was found that Bailey had tweeted some racist remark.

Now, some are saying that because Bailey was clearly racist, she is undeserving of empathy and deserves to be fat-shamed. But does she? All humans, no matter how we try, are prejudiced in one way or another. If you can honestly tell me that you treat everyone with an equal amount of respect after a brief first impression, regardless of the state of their physical hygiene or the words that come out of their mouth, either you're a liar, or you're actually God. Yes, she tweeted some racist stuff. But does that mean that all hate she receives in all aspects of her life are justified?

On the other hand, Bailey was racist. And what comes around goes around. There was one user on Twitter who pointed out that as a racist, Bailey was a bully herself. And, quite honestly, everyone loves the downfall of the bully. The moment the bullies' victims stop cowering from fear and discover that they, too, have claws is the moment when the onlookers turn the tables and start jeering the bully instead. This is the moment the bully completely and utterly breaks, feeling the pain of their victims for the first time, and for the victims, the bully's demise is satisfying to watch.

While we'd all like to believe that the ideal is somewhere in between, in a happy medium where her racism is penalized but she also gets sympathy for being fat shamed, the reality is that the ideal is to be entirely empathetic. Help her through her tough time, with no backlash.

Bullies bully to dominate and to feel powerful. If we tell her that she's undeserving of any good in life because she tweeted some racist stuff, she will feel stifled and insignificant and awful. Maybe she'll also want to make someone else to feel as awful as she did for some random physical characteristic she has. Maybe, we might dehumanize her to the point where we feel that she's undeserving of anything, and she might forget the preciousness of life. Either one of the outcomes is unpleasant and disturbing and will not promote healthy tendencies within a person.

Instead, we should make her feel supported. We all have bad traits about ourselves, but they shouldn't define us. Maybe, through this experience, she'll realize how it feels to be prejudiced against based off physical characteristics. After all, it is our lowest points, our most desperate points in life, that provide us with another perspective to use while evaluating the world and everyone in it.

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15 Winter Dates For Couples Who'd Rather Snuggle Indoors Than Step Foot Outside

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Christmas time in New England can get pretty damn cold. I mean, we do have a few warm days, but for the most part, it's cold, windy, and sometimes snowy out. Now, if you're anything like me and you don't like the cold, typical Christmas dates might not be for you, but luckily there's plenty of cute dates that don't involve venturing out in the freezing abyss.

So get your hot chocolate, eggnog, ugly sweaters and festive pajamas ready because here are 15 fun winter dates that don't involve you and your partner leaving the house at all.

1. Ginger bread house competition

2. Classic Christmas movie marathon

3. Hallmark movie marathon

Only because my boyfriend's mom LOVES them.

4. Okay so really just any Christmas movie marathon.

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5. Making Christmas ornaments

6. Paper snowflake making competition

7. Baking and decorating (and eating!) Christmas cookies

8. Dance around to Christmas music

9. Make each other a new stocking

10. Write a letter to Santa

Super silly but super cute.

11. Take cute Christmas pictures

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Perfect time for those ugly Christmas sweaters or Christmas pajamas.

12. Decorate the Christmas tree

And you know the rest of the inside of the house.

13. Wrap presents together

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