The world is filed with amazing, generous, and humble people, although the truth is many people we will interact with and meet in life will be the exact opposite. In my short 22 years of life, I have learned that some humans are just unhappy, negative, and rude people. Here are five truths that we must always remember when dealing with difficult and rude individuals.
1. THEY HAVE THE ISSUES NOT YOU: The more negative and rude a person is, directly reflects THEIR issues and flaws, they do not reflect you who are, or your worth. Many people will feel superior to you and belittle you and disrespect you. In these times, we must realize that these troubled people are struggling with something so severe they feel the need to share that pain with us. We must simply decline their offer to bring us down with their negativity. Don't fight fire with fire, just walk away and pray for the individual.
2. KILL 'EM WITH KINDNESS: The best way to deter negative vibes from any individual is to ooze with positivity. This is also the best way to stand up to rude behavior and make a stand that "I am in control of my happiness, and I have the choice not to let rude behavior effect my decisions and life."
3. DON'T BE AFRAID TO STAND UP TO STRANGERS: Many times, especially in shopping environments I witness the rudest and most inconsiderate acts between shoppers. I have gained the courage that when I see actions like this; I simply step in politely and respectfully and make it clear to all parties that this type of negativity is not needed. There is a way to be confrontational with still obtaining manners and an aspect of grace.
4. DISTANCE YOURSELF: Do not be afraid to distance yourself from people who are bringing you down. You can still be a good friend and be there for people going through a hard time. Although it is important to remember you are who you associate with. If a friend is going through a season that results in negative effects on your relationship with them, there is no shame in taking some distance, and setting boundaries. There is no need to burn bridges, but one must also be strategic with how much time they spend with negative people.
5. NOBODY HAS TIME FOR RUDE PEOPLE: The truth of the matter is no one has time for rude people. If you are reading this article and you realize, this describes me a lot! Change! Because negative, rude, inconsiderate people are toxic. But even worse this type of behavior is self-destructive. There is always a choice between showing grace and being rude. If you continue with a path of negativity, you will see yourself being very lonely in the near future. People will not want to stick around.
It is so imperative to realize that our demeanor and attitude effects those around us much more than we would like to realize. We live in a social environment, and it is always important for us to remember to be kind, respectful positive people to everyone we come in contact with. It is also just as important to realize that we have the responsibility to remove ourselves from negative situations, and distance ourselves from toxic relationships. Because after all, nobody has time for that.
