5 Reasons You Should Focus On Yourself

5 Reasons You Should Focus On Yourself

Self-love (noun): regard for one's own well-being and happiness.

The world these days is focused on altruism as the core of what it means to be a good person. Being “politically correct” is at the center of a large portion of social media posts and the presidential campaign this year. Being kind to others is one thing, but catering your beliefs to others is indicative of a lack of self-esteem and a need to focus on your own happiness. While giving to others is positive, you truly cannot give until you have taken care of yourself.

Here are five reasons why you should focus on yourself.

1. Focus on yourself to learn what you’re worth.

The first step to self-love is evaluating what you think you are worth. It is up to you and nobody else. Figure out what you think you are worth – be that in salary at work or the stability of your relationships.

2. Focus on yourself to improve your relationships.

When you are your best version of yourself people will see the confidence you possess and will respond with respect and authenticity. Confident people have happier relationships – not only with themselves but with others as well.

3. Focus on yourself to discover your interests.

When you focus on introspection, you discover what activities and hobbies truly make you happy and in which ones you participate simply to “fit in." Take time to do the things you love every day, and you will be happier internally and externally.

4. Focus on yourself to find your definition of success.

While the world can tell you a million things that will make you successful, the definition of success varies from person to person. Set goals for yourself and make sure to put a date on that goal. If it doesn’t make you happy, and you are doing it for someone else, drop it and do a bit of self-discovery. Success all depends on how you define it, whether it be family, career or travel.

5. Focus on yourself to find happiness.

Happiness roots itself in self-worth, confidence and happiness. Choosing yourself over others should be considered a public service and not selfishness. If everyone were at their happiest, the world would be a better place overall. While people’s definitions of achievement may differ, happiness is a feeling that can be experienced across all political, sociocultural and geographic lines. Focus on yourself, from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed and make unselfish happiness your number one priority.

And remember, happiness and laughter are contagious. Focusing on yourself can help others focus on themselves.

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I Drank Lemon Water For A Week And Here's What Happened

It has already changed my life.


There are so many health crazes out there now, it's hard to tell what actually works and what doesn't; or more importantly what is healthy and what is making your body worse. I read about simply drinking lemon water and I figured that didn't sound gross or bad for me so I figured I would give it a try. I've been drinking it consistently for a week and a half and I already notice some results.

I've never been a fan of lemon in my water, I always refuse it at restaurants. You definitely have to find your sweet spot in lemon to water ratio, in what tastes good to you. I personally cut the lemon into quarters and use on quarter per day. I put the lemon quarter in the bottle and then continuously fill with water throughout the day. I still get the yummy lemon flavor all day because I do not squeeze the lemon. It took about a bottle or two to get used to the lemon flavor, and now I just crave it.

Lemon water is supposed to speed up your metabolism. Obviously, a week is not long enough to tell if this is fact or fiction but I have noticed a change in appetite. I feel like I do not get hungry as often as I did before. I saw this effect within 24-48 hours of starting the experiment. This seems opposite to a fast metabolism but we'll see.

I definitely feel more hydrated with lemon water. I drink a lot of water anyways, about 80 oz a day but for some reason with the lemon, it makes me feel better. I don't feel as sluggish, I'm not getting hot as easily, and my skin feels amazing. I am slightly skeptical though because the lemon almost makes my tongue dry requiring me to drink more water, so I have upped my intake by about 20oz. I'm unsure if the hydration is due to the extra water, the lemon, or both!

My face is clearing up and feels so much softer too, in only a week! I have not gotten a new pimple since I have started my lemon water kick, may be coincidence but I'm not going to argue with it.

I also feel skinnier as I feel like I'm not holding as much water weight. I only exercise lightly, for the most part, walking around a mile or two a day so we can eliminate exercise factor to the slender feeling.

I have a messy stomach. Everything upsets it, and even though lemons are very acidic, they have not affected me in a negative way at all. It almost seems like the lemon water is helping me digest the difficult foods that my stomach doesn't like. I'm nowhere near a doctor so don't trust my word but it seems to be working for me.

From the effects I've felt so far, it also seems like lemon water may be a great hangover cure! I haven't tried it but I don't see why it wouldn't work. I can't say a negative thing about drinking lemon water so far expect you have to buy the lemons! If you try this for yourself though just make sure you are using an enamel saving mouthwash or toothpaste since lemons aren't so great for your teeth.

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'Treat Yo' Self' The Right Way Not Just For A Calorie-Laden Meal Or A Dessert

Treat yourself to alone time doing something that you love and makes you ready to tackle the next thing on your to-do list.


The other week I was finished with class early, I got an assignment done and I was left with some time with no meetings scheduled, no assignments needing my immediate attention, no more classes.

I found myself with a rare few hours of freedom.

In my world and schedule of college, this never happens. So when it does, it feels blissful and amazing.

Free time.

A true concept that I forget about sometimes.

So with this free time I wondered what I should do, it was a beautiful day out and it felt too nice to just spend it holed up watching Netflix. At first, I started going through my mental Rolodex of friends to see who I might want to hang out with. But then I paused.

I didn't need anyone else to help me occupy my time. I could just spend it by myself.

Alone time is another rare beauty in a college student's life.

When you're living on campus you are constantly around people, no matter who they are. I know by the end of each semester I am getting stir crazy to escape back home to be by myself.

So to spend a few hours with no one but yourself and your thoughts, not having to be switched "on" for conversation is so relaxing.

With these spare hours, I decided to take myself out to get my nails done. This is something I have begun to realize how much I appreciate and something I can't do by myself. Something about having a freshly painted set of colorful nails just makes me feel a little bit more put together, or if I may – polished.

Also sitting down for thirty minutes to get my nails done is so relaxing and you can't really do anything else while it's being done so it is a rare moment where I am also free from multitasking.

Once I got my nails done I decided to continue to take time for myself and walk to a bakery I had been wanting to try and got a cookie. I strolled back to campus enjoying the unseasonably warm weather.

It was a great afternoon.

This afternoon also really allowed me to gain a sense of appreciation for the generational concept of "treat yourself."

So often we'll insert this phrase to justify a calorie-laden meal, or a sweet treat or some other activity that could also be considered a "vice."

Or I know this is how often use this phrase and see those around me use it.

But what does it really mean to "treat yourself?"

It means different things for different people.

One universal aspect of treating yourself is should be giving yourself time to appreciate it.

Slow down to enjoy that meal or dessert that you are treating yourself to. Go with friends who you haven't spent much time with or even go by yourself. Don't just pick it up on the go and rush through it.

If you have the time, once and a while go out to a movie instead of just lazing in bed with Netflix (although that is good too).

Get out and go on a walk somewhere.

Get your nails done

Read for pleasure.

I can think of so many things that I would love to do right now to "treat myself."

I just also need to give myself time to do it.

I don't think the afternoon I described earlier should be a once in a blue moon type of thing. We all deserve free time and there are things we can do to build free time into our schedules.

Although it is a pretty serendipitous moment when a window of free time comes out of the blue.

So I challenge you in the next week to truly treat yourself.

Don't use the phrase as justification, use the phrase because you truly are treating yourself to something that will make you feel good, relaxed, renewed, and ready to tackle the next item on your to-do list.

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