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May 16, 2019

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Let me start out by saying, I LOVE my boyfriend. He truly is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, and I couldn't imagine my life without him. However, when my single friends come to me complaining about how badly they want to be in a relationship because it will "take all of their problems away", I wish I could explain to them that the reality of being in a relationship just isn't that simple.

1. You can't dump all of your problems on them.

Nor should you! Your significant other is a person with a life, not just a person to rant to all of the time. There will be times when you want to talk to them and they're busy with things going on in their own life, and that's okay. But you shouldn't think that being in a relationship with someone means your problems become their problems.

2. There are some things they can't fix, even if they wanted to.

So maybe you failed an exam and you're really upset about it. Or someone in your family is sick and you're worried about them. Or one of your friends was mean to you and you're mad at them. As much as your significant other might WANT to help, they aren't your fairy godmother. They can give you a big hug and tell you it's all going to be okay, but there are times when that just won't be enough.

3. You are bringing another person into your life.

Having a significant other is like bringing another best friend into your already hectic life. On top of trying to balance all of the relationships you already have, this adds an entire new layer to your life. If you're already overwhelmed and stressed, getting into a relationship might make things even harder on yourself.

4. Your significant other has their own problems.

Your significant other will bring an entirely new set of problems into your relationship, and while they aren't your own, you'll want to support them and be there for them. This means give and take on both ends of the relationship, and sometimes one person has to put in more effort than the other.

In the end, finding a boyfriend or girlfriend can't be the answer to all of your problems. I love my boyfriend and I am so glad he's a part of my life, but unfortunately I've realized that life has it's challenges with or without him by my side. I'm not saying you have to take my word for it, but if you're looking for a relationship that's going to make all of your problems disappear, you might be in it for the wrong reasons.

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4 Things To Remember BEFORE Thinking That Jumping Into A Relationship Will Solve All of Your Problems

Contrary to the popular belief.

1. You can't dump all of your problems on them.

2. There are some things they can't fix, even if they wanted to.

3. You are bringing another person into your life.

4. Your significant other has their own problems.

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And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

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Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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