Don’t be sad. Don’t worry sweetheart. Don’t get down because you don’t have that special guy in your life right now. Don’t feel like you are a weirdo because you don’t have one just yet. Relationships aren’t something that just magically come as soon as you wish for it. They come in time and with patience.

Just like flowers, we all bloom at separated times. Some of us are early bloomers and some of us are late bloomers. Everyone is different!

I am speaking as someone who had never been in a committed relationship ever. The furthest I have ever gotten was that I dated a guy for three months and that relationship went very badly. I was only thirteen and a freshman in high school. We never even kissed or went on dates. he wasn't that into me but I guess we dated because he felt sorry for me.

I have never been kissed, and I have been on dates, but they never really end with a connection. I have had crushes on guys and I am usually close to being in a relationship but then something happens. I find out he is not who I thought he was, he is a cheater, he has a girlfriend, he only wants to be a hookup, etc.

I totally understand and relate to what some of you may have dealt with too in your quest to try and find that special first boyfriend. The struggle of trying to find love is totally real.

Yeah, we live in a very technology-filled world and I bet some of you may have heard this before too “why don’t you go on an app and try online dating?” Call me old fashion but I want to find my special someone face to face, not on a profile.

It doesn’t really help either that most of your friends all have boyfriends or at least have had one in their life while you haven’t had any luck yet. It can be hard to see your friends all happy and lovey-dovey just wishing you can have what they have too. Hearing crazy stories of your friends’ ex’s and never being able to relate to them.

Always having to be the third wheel with most of your friends and their boyfriends can be tough too. It can make you feel awkward and a bit sad because you wish you can go on dates with a guy and go on group dates with your friends! I understand that too.

I know seeing all this can make you feel down on yourself. That something is wrong with you that’s no one will date you, you’re too ugly and the list just grows. Now you are 20 years old and you feel like that you are so behind, and you will never have a boyfriend, fall in love, get married and have kids.

You need to know none of these negative things you are saying why you don’t have a boyfriend isn’t true. Not one bit! You are a beautiful, wonderful, amazing girl and anyone would be lucky to date you and be with you. Things come in time.

Maybe right now isn’t the right time for you to be in a relationship but just because it isn’t now, doesn’t mean it will never happen.

Everyone in this world has their other half. He is out there probably feeling just the same way as you and looking for you. I know it is tough feeling this lonely feeling in your heart but don’t stress about it!

Beside it is ok to not have a boyfriend right now. You are young, only 20 years old! I know some people may say, “Oh, why don’t you have a boyfriend? You are 20, you’re not going to be young forever.” Ignore them! relationships aren’t everything. You can be sad, upset, frustrated but don’t obsessive over it.

Don’t be desperate for a relationship or lower your standards.

Know what you want and make sure you are ready for when you do get into a relationship. Don’t believe all the Disney and TV romances, relationships are work and are like a rollercoaster. Make sure you are happy and love you first, before giving that happiness and love to a boy.

Focus on what makes you happy!

Slow your roll baby girl. Take a deep breath. Everything is ok, it's ok to be 20 and never been in a relationship. Don’t rush it, don’t look for it. It is going to come at the right time, usually when you don’t expect it. I always say the reason I haven’t had a real relationship yet is that my love story is still being written.

Being in your 20’s is the best time of your life don’t spend them trying to get into a relationship. Have fun, go explore, grow, travel the world, hang out with friends, and just live life!

Each one of you reading this deserves a wonderful guy who treats you like the gem you are. Yes, there are guys at there, you just have to be patience!