15 Simple Self Care Tips To Use When You're Struggling

15 Simple Self Care Tips To Use When You're Struggling

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I think that, for most of us, there are times in our lives when it all just feels like too much. For some people, it may last days, weeks, months, maybe even years. Sometimes, just waking up for the day, going to work, or putting one foot in front of the other is a struggle. Maybe it’s because you live with a mental illness, maybe it’s because you’ve had your heart broken, maybe you’re trying to cope with a loss, maybe you're struggling to find your place in the world, or maybe there’s no exact reason for why you’re feeling down.

No matter the reasoning, I hope you realize it is OK to not be OK. Life can be messy, painful, difficult and confusing. Because of this, taking care of yourself should be your first priority. Self care comes in many different forms and it's important to find what works for your individual self. Many self care tips don't take into consideration that people struggling often lack motivation, so going on a vacation or a running a marathon is unrealistic. Sometimes, just getting out of bed is an accomplishment worth acknowledging. These 15 tips are simple and help me, and I hope you or a loved one you know, can benefit as much as i do.

1. Call a trusted friend or family member and talk it out

Getting your thoughts out of your head is essential to start feeling better. Even if your family and friend's don't understand your struggle, they can still be there for you and listen.

2. Create a morning and evening routine that you can look forward to and unwind to

Having a predictable routine can bring so much comfort and grounding in times of life that feel confusing or out of control.

3. Go for a walk/run by yourself, with a friend, or your dog

Sometimes, a walk to clear your mind is the most therapeutic thing you can do.

4. Work out and create goals for yourself

The feeling of doing something good for yourself and your body is unbelievable. Seeing progress, even if it's not much, will help your motivation and attitude about yourself.

5. Shower

Sometimes we forget about our personal hygiene because it's the last thing on our minds. But it is a start to feeling better when we take care of our selves.

6. Eat and Hydrate

This may seem like an obvious suggestion, but many people going through a hard time have no appetite. It is important to give our body what it needs and get nutrients and water.

7. Ask for help

Nobody should have to struggle alone. It is OK to be at a loss on what to do next. Turning to someone trustworthy or a professional is nothing to be ashamed of. That is what they are there for.

8. Write it out

Keep a journal, type, do whatever is best for you. Many people including myself, can have a hard time expressing themselves. Writing is good way to reflect on your feelings

9. Limit your time on your phone and social media

Social media and certain people can be triggering to your emotions. It's helpful to find other things to stay busy with other than your phone.

10. Spend time with your friends and family

Try not to isolate yourself, as hard as that can be not to. It can be as simple as a visit to their home, or grabbing lunch. It can feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, but you don't have to carry it alone.

11. Get back into your hobbies and passions

Pick out a new book to read, find new music, go grab that old baseball mitt and throw with someone, volunteer at a humane society or school, do whatever it is that brings you happiness.

12. Get a healthy amount of sleep

If your situation causes you to not get enough sleep, take the time to properly rest yourself throughout the day. If you are sleeping too much and lack the motivation, use this list as ways to get up and get active for yourself and your body.

13. Educate yourself on what you are going through

Look for ways to cope and get help. Find others who have faced similar struggles. Seek out those role models for inspiration.

14. Keep your space clean and organized

When the area that you spend your time is clean, it is one less thing to worry about. Having your physical space in order, can help yourself feel more together as well.

15. Challenge your negative thoughts

Recognizing that your current way of thinking might be self-defeating, can sometimes motivate you to look at things from a different perspective. This is something that takes a lot of practice but is worth the hard work.

This is a good starting point to get you thinking about how you can best take care of yourself during a hard time and to spark your curiosity and interest in strengthening your self-care now and ongoing. You are the expert of your own experience and only you know what’s best for you. I hope that in reading this you’re also realizing how normal and natural it is to struggle and to have these tough, hard times. It’s part of being human. Take care and love yourself first!

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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.

The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:

“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:


When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:

"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

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Your Health Journey Is A Marathon, Not A Sprint

Perfection takes time.


When you first start to do something, you have all of the motivation in the world to accomplish that goal set out in front of you, especially when it comes to being healthier. The problem is as you continue through this journey and food and laziness kick in, motivation slips. It's human, and it happens to everyone no matter how physically strong they are.

Trying to be healthier doesn't always mean losing weight. It can be so your knees don't ache as much, so you don't feel as out of breath climbing stairs, or any goal you have set for yourself. Being healthier is personal and different from person to person.

I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of changes I would love to make about myself. From my weight to my body type and many other things about myself inside and out. I am by no means the most confident person about how I look, but I have worked hard for the past year to be an overall healthier person.

Becoming healthier isn't about looking thinner or fitting into a specific size of clothes. It is about taking care of yourself from eating better to working out more. There comes a feeling of confidence in what your body can do if you put a little love in it.

Perfection takes time, and I know firsthand how frustrating trying to be healthier can be.

Pizza tastes so much better than salad. It is so easy to fall into a rhythm of something that seems never to change whether that is your weight or your mile time. Sadly, you can't build a city, or become healthier overnight.

We see people who are thinner, curvier, smarter, faster, and so much more than us. We all waste time comparing ourselves to people around us and on our timelines, but some of our biggest strengths are our individuality and the gift of getting back up after falling down.

All I can say is, please don't give up on your goal of being healthier because this is solely for you. We can have a great support system in the world and have everyone in our corner, but that isn't enough.

You need yourself. You need to know that if you don't entirely put yourself in this journey, then you won't fully succeed. Your commitment to bettering yourself can keep you going even if you want to give up.

Your motivation may not be at its peak level right now, and you may have every cell in your body screaming at you to quit. Don't do it. Prove to yourself that you can keep going no matter what. Not giving up will be worth it. The results and taking the hard way will make you a stronger person inside and out.

You can do this. You can do anything you want to accomplish if you just believe in yourself. You need to understand that becoming healthier takes endurance. There will be periods where you slow down and may not be going at your fastest pace. The difference is that you are not giving up and you are still trying and moving.

Don't treat becoming healthier as a sprint: short term and quick. That mentality will only leave you feeling deflated and defeated. It is a life-long marathon of pacing yourself and pushing yourself further than ever before.

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