Especially in college and in the younger generations, breakups are so rampant. Breakups are hard, but they shouldn't cause your world to fall apart. Read these ten truths to get you through a breakup like a champ and know that everything is not as bad as it may seem.
1. The "It's not you, it's me," line is not always a cliché.
Someone can put his/her entirety into the relationship and be the most loyal and loving partner there can be, but that does not mean that he/she is compatible with the other person. People either stay together or break up. If they break up, they were simply not meant for each other. Unfortunately, breakups often lead to one person feeling as if they are not "good enough" for the other person or "good enough" in general. That is false — they were just not meant to be together!
2. The person who initiates the breakup should not always be labeled as the "bad guy."
I've been the one to break up with someone and I've been broken up with. There is not one scenario that is easier than the other. You feel awful when you hurt someone, and you feel awful when someone hurts you. It hurts either way. Unless you have been in both positions, don't talk because chances are you don't know anything.
3. You may run into your ex (especially if you are in college). It will be awkward. Say hello anyway.
Hey, maybe it won't be awkward running into your ex. Maybe you two were great friends prior to the relationship and you were fortunate enough to avoid the post-breakup awkwardness. But maybe you two don't have that luck and, like many people, you will feel awkward seeing your ex (especially for the first time since the breakup). Don't be immature and ignore him/her. Whether you want to admit it or not, your ex was in your life at some point in time and you two probably shared something special. Grow up and acknowledge his/her existence. Saying hello is not equivalent to having a conversation.
4. Just because you are hurt by the breakup and your ex, that does not give you the right to be disrespectful to his/her friends.
You weren't in a relationship with your ex's friends, you were in a relationship with your ex. There is no reason to let out any of your negative emotions on them. One: you are not going to prove anything by being rude expect for the fact that you are letting the breakup negatively affect you. Two: once again, grow up and say hello.
5. If you were the one to initiate the breakup, remain mindful of the other person's feelings and give him/her space.
People think because someone breaks up with someone, they have it so much easier than the other person. That is completely false. Chances are you are going to miss that person and you will want to talk to him/her at times. Don't make the mistake of giving in to your emotions. Especially if you know the two of you are not meant to be and you don't want anything with him/her again, refrain from any contact. Remain strong and keep in mind that by contacting your ex, you are only going to make it harder for the both of you.
6. Refrain from looking at his/her social media accounts.
You are going to want to see what he/she is doing. Is it going to make you feel better? No. So then why do it? If you are not strong enough to ignore his/her posts, it is okay to unfollow your ex. You have to be honest with yourself and know that keeping up with his/her updates is not going to make the healing process go any quicker. What your ex does is irrelevant to your life at this point. If you don't focus on yourself after the breakup, then who will?
7. Unless the two of you are 100 percent completely over each other right after the breakup (rare case scenario), then the two of you are not ready to be friends.
It is as simple as this: if you and your ex are meant to be friends, that can only happen once the two of you are comfortable seeing one another date other people.
8. The world will appear to be in a perfect state of equilibrium one day and then in a state of agitation the next.
Breakups can be emotional roller-coasters, especially if it was a rough one. You are going to want to cry one day, and then feel on top of the world the next. Your moods are going to fluctuate and you are going to have to just bear with them and be patient. Nothing is permanent and, in due time, you will be feeling back to the normal you.
9. Belittling your ex in front of other people is just bad karma for you.
Talking bad about your ex to other people to make yourself feel better is only going to bring you down in the end. Even if he/she did you wrong, going around and telling everyone what a terrible person your ex is is not going to take the pain away. Why even bother wasting time talking about him/her? Once again, you should be focusing on you now. He/she does not matter! How someone speaks about other people speaks volumes about that person's character. Keep that in mind.
10. He/she may move on sooner than you expected (vice versa). That's okay because it's his/her journey. You have your own!
You are a unique individual; therefore, your journey will not be the same as someone else's. Why would you want to have the same story as others anyway? Don't be angry at your ex for moving on. You two broke up for a reason, and at some point you will have to move on too. Do not let your ego cloud your rationality!
