I can openly say that I am a quote addict. I can browse through quotes on Pinterest for longer than I'd like to admit. And I find doing this a great tool for getting through hard times. Sometimes just reading a good quote that resonates with you gives you some perspective on things. So, without further ado, here are 10 quotes that have helped me look at things in a way that's gotten me through some rough times.
#1- "When it is all finished, you will discover it was never random."
The idea of fate is subjective. The thought of everything happening for a purpose is subjective. But it has truly helped me to believe that every little thing that happens leads you to something else that is meant to happen in your life. For example... I attended college in a Professional Photography program for one semester before I got sick. It was a blip in time, and it turned out not to be what I want in life, but I truly believe that I was meant to attend for that one semester, because I met my best friend there. I don't believe it was random that we met on the first day of orientation for class. I believe that she is one of the soulmates I'm meant to meet in my life. I never say nothing came of that, or that I failed by having to leave, because attending for that one semester placed her in my life and changed it forever, and she became my rock throughout many years of my illness.
#2- "There is purpose in your season of waiting." - Megan Smalley
You are going to notice a slight theme with the quotes that have gotten me through hard times. It's the theme that there is purpose to the pain. That this pain isn't for nothing. Maybe one day I will use this painful period of waiting to help other people going through the same thing. Maybe in this season of waiting, circumstances will put me in a room with another person who I'm meant to cross paths with.
#3- "Your story is unique and so, so different.. and not worthy of comparison."
This is a great reminder to stop comparing myself to other people. Everyone is on their own path and it's fine if your path is different. Our paths aren't supposed to be symmetrical. No one has lived exactly what you have lived, and it's so important to cheer each other on instead of comparing, and to know that what has happened to you is yours and no one can change that. It's not there for anyone else to compare or judge.
#4- "I realized there is no shame in being honest. There is no shame in being vulnerable. It's the beauty of being human."
When you suffer with a chronic illness, sometimes it feels like people expect you to be strong. People expect you to be able to handle whatever is thrown at you with grace. Sometimes it's hard to share your true feelings on your situation. Some days will be harder than others, that's a guarantee. And on those hard days, it's okay to be open, and honest. Anyone who judges you for complaining, or letting down your armour and being vulnerable, is not worthy of one second of your thoughts. The people who matter are the ones who have love in their hearts, and they will appreciate the human in you.
#5- "They tried to bury us. They didn't know we were seeds." - Mexican proverb
I absolutely love this powerful
statement. I look at the word "they" as life. Life may try to bury us,
but we will grow right through the soil it throws on us. This quote is a
powerful reminder of our strength and resilience as humans.
#6- "Where you are is not who you are. - circumstances"
Such an amazing reminder that what has happened to you in life doesn't dictate who you are. The way I see it, the fact that you may be stuck home with no job, or out of school, doesn't make you less wise, or lazy. Those are your circumstances, not your characteristics. Maybe you're funny, or maybe you're generous and kind. Maybe you're a singer, or a writer. Maybe you have a love for animals, or a passion for volunteering. Maybe you love comedies or maybe you love scary movies. THAT is who you are. This tells me that I am not my illnesses. I am made up of the traits I have (the good and the bad), the things I love, and the things I feel passionate about.
#7- "Even if you shake, a step is still a step. Continue to be brave enough to walk your path." - The Better Man Project
Sometimes I feel like giving up. Sometimes I feel like I can't take another second, as I'm sure a lot of people can relate to. But when I make that tiny decision to keep going, that is a step. It doesn't matter if you waver, so long as you keep going.
#8- "Trust the wait. Embrace the uncertainty. Enjoy the beauty of becoming. When nothing is certain, anything is possible."
How true is this last sentence? "When
nothing is certain, anything is possible." Uncertainty sucks. I am a
person who likes to know all the facts. The unknown puts me on edge. But
this thought, that not knowing and being uncertain isn't so terrible,
and that things beyond your wildest dreams can happen, helps me get
through these days.
#9- "So, do it. Decide. Is this the life you want to live? Is this the person you want to love? Is this the best you can be? Can you be stronger? Kinder? More compassionate? Decide. Breathe in. Breathe out and decide." - Meredith Grey (Grey's Anatomy)
Having a chronic illness, a lot of the time it feels like nothing in your life is in your
control. And it's a horrible feeling. I absolutely love this reminder
that although some things are out of our control, there are still
choices we can make. We still have power over our lives, and if we don't
like where we are, we can figure out if there are things that we can
change to make us happier, or to make us a better person. There is
always room to grow.
#10- "So, what if, instead of thinking about solving your whole life, you just think about adding additional good things. One at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow."
Speaking of growing, I love this idea
of just letting your pile of good things grow. It is so easy to worry
about the rest of your life. Especially when it comes to chronic
illness. I go to that place of worry all the time, and feel like I need
to figure everything out. But if we focus on just adding things into our
lives that make us happy, and add them in one at a time, as slowly as
we need to, things will change for the better. It's impossible to figure
out your whole life in a day. But it definitely isn't impossible to
slowly add in things that you make you smile, even if it's for a second.