"It all begins with you. If you do not care for yourself, you will not be able to take care of anything in life." -Leon Brown
Growing up, the phrase "make sure to put others before yourself," is one that is very common. Some people take that phrase very seriously, and devote their entire lives to serving others. It is a wonderful thing to be someone who likes to make others' lives a bit easier. Without you, the world would be a very dark place; but because you fill such an important role in the lives of many, it is important that you remember to take care of yourself every once in a while.
Things that get used too much get worn down and worn out, and the same goes for people. It is so easy to run yourself dry, and use every ounce of your go-getter, selfless attitude without being able to enjoy any of it yourself. That is very unfortunate, because you deserve to relax, have fun, and recuperate just as you advise many of your friends to do.
"But you don't understand, I HAVE to be there for my friends and everyone else who needs me. I can't possibly take a break," you may be saying at this point. I completely understand this mentality. Since you know that there are people relying on you, it is only important that you take time to recharge so that you can serve to the best of your ability. And the people that you are there for will understand if you want to take time for yourself; they may even encourage it.
It goes without warning, however, that there will be people who will always expect you to say yes to their requests, and they may not receive your "no" in a positive way. This is in no way a reflection of your character, but rather a reflection of theirs. When people who are selfless and giving are constantly around, it can be easy for someone to take advantage of that person, and start taking their kindness for granted. This is not an acceptable behavior, and when this happens, just know that not everyone is as kindhearted as you are. Take this opportunity to learn how to say no, and feel comfortable with it. No one person can be everything to and do everything for someone else.
You have done, and will continue to do great things in life, but rest is required in order to do so. There is never any shame in saying no to someone else in order to do something for yourself. It is not at all selfish, and it helps to create a boundary so that you do not find yourself overcommitting your time and energy to too many people.
The world needs your light and love, so make sure to dedicate time to yourself in order have a happy mind, healthy body, and selfless spirit.
