Habits, ticks, nervous movements. Things that we do unconsciously. Almost everyone has at least one if not multiple habits and or obsessions if you will, that make up who they are. From tapping fingers to the overuse of a word or the little quirk in which one might roll their eyes a little too often.

These pieces of our personalities stem from various reasons, but that is not what I want to address. I would like to point out that people cannot often help the various actions that they have and the fact that you shouldn’t call someone out simply because they always chew on their straw.

As someone who has been called out for many of my personal habits, it can actually be a bit crippling. I often don’t pay mind to some of my habits or simply do them unconsciously and when someone points it out, it makes me more self-aware and it feels a bit judged. I often brush off the comments with ease or a snappy response, but in the moment, I also get a bit upset. Especially when I am asked about it repeatedly or when I am interrogated about a habit that in all honesty just developed and I can't tell you why I stare into the distance, bite my nails, or only eat bagels only on Wednesdays.

I know that people are naturally curious, and I’m not saying you can’t ask. My point is that people should be a little considerate before asking someone why they put a lot of salt on their food or why they might fidget so much. As I mentioned, our habits stem from various reasons, sometimes reasons people may not want to share or maybe they just developed it out of nowhere.

Pointing out people's habit might make someone insecure and no one likes to feel like an outcast, especially in today's society. Again, I get that people are curious, but just remember to be considerate. Try to ask politely or maybe not even ask at all. As I'm sure you’ve heard before, treat people the way you want to be treated.

If you wouldn't feel good about being called out because of your constant hair twirling, the guy who always looks down when speaking might not like it either. All in all, it’s the small things, we are told not to be judgmental and consider feelings, but maybe we don’t consider habits. The small things that make us, well us.

Things like compliments, good or bad stick with us and I think people forget that comments about our quirks also stay with us, and when you point them out it can make others insecure. So just remember that people's habits make them who they are, and we often times can't control them.