In life so far I've honestly heard it all as I'm sure all of you reading this article may have as well. I think as 20' something year olds we can clearly say that we've heard just about everything. We may be so young but the things we experience in our generation are just so mind boggling these days.
The most painful things we truly hear people say to us are the ones that betrayed our well-being.Those lies, words, sayings, stories, promises, and even the not so promises. Words are powerful, more powerful than your actions will ever be in life.
When you give your word to someone it means that you are committed, forthcoming, and entrusting your judgment towards them. It means that you will follow through and prove your self-worth by proving your words to be true. Everything you say in life whether it's through social media, text messaging, or in person stays with people forever because our minds are such an embodied asset. Together your mind and the words that you think of are forever your greatest tool and weapon.
It doesn't matter if it's in a friendship, relationship, or in a work environment your words have so much meaning and you should always be mindful of what you say and how you say it. There's a difference between telling someone the truth bluntly out of love and care for them as a tough love bringing them to reality kind of thing, as opposed to choosing specific words and secrets to say using it as daggers to their heart disguising it as "the truth".
The truth never hurts, the truth is not supposed to hurt but the words that you solemnly purposely choose to say will and can damage someone. Words can hurt and can literally break down a person's mentality. Words are instant and documented especially since you can legally be held accountable for them.
Your actions are only a piece of the puzzle because you can never be sure of the true intentions behind someone's actions. Their words say all of who they are and from those first impressions enabling you to be able to literally read who they deeply are as a person.
Of course, we all get blinded by those that we have loved that are now strangers to us but the reason I write this article is in spite of this very phenomenon. I write to all my readers out there because I want you to start really listening to how people talk to you, how you talk to them, think before you speak, and start seeing three-sides to every story.
Especially when people say things to you like "you're playing the victim, you're always playing the victim". First off, what does that even mean?
To play the victim, in a logical sense you have to blame other people for your own problems, not take responsibility for your own actions, you're helpless, the list goes on. Except, if "playing the victim" means that you shouldn't stand up for yourself, speak your own mind, or give your opinion, that person telling you this crazy crap is toxic and has no right to be a part of your life.
For someone to say that you're playing the victim they themselves must be that insecure enough to pinpoint you and put you at their fault. If saying sorry is not good enough and you know in your heart what you did was ethical then there's no doubt you should feel no matter how much you love them.
People love to play mind games and unfortunately sometimes it's too late before you give them all of your heart and realize they never deeply appreciated it. Which is why I can't stress this enough because I want you all to own up to your words and see how important it is to be conscious of them because words, phrases, the mind, and truth can be blinded.
Don't take your words for granted and don't be afraid to second-guess the things that people tell you, take them with a grain of salt if you have to because life is too short to live another person's lie. Know who you are and know that no one has the same heart as you do. Never tolerate with any kind of abuse and get rid of all of those toxic people in your life.
Let your own words control your life, never let anyone else's words or perceptions of who they think you are control or alter your future.
