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Yes, I've Been Single My Whole Life But I still Don't Need any of these 20 reasons to download Tinder

Newsflash: I'm not going to make one.

Brooke Przybylinski

Jul 16, 2018

Pennsylvania State University

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Yes, I am a single college student. Yes, I might want to experience a relationship. And no, I will not use Tinder as a solution. I'm not judging or belittling anybody who uses (or used) dating apps— some people have found successful relationships and a major kudos to them.

However, I sometimes feel as though people judge me for NOT using Tinder and approaching relationships the hard way. I am single, but I will never use Tinder because I personally don't believe I can find a successful relationship with an app. When people tell me to get one and I ask them why; I get these same 20 reasons that will NEVER convince me to make a profile of my own.

1. "You meet so many people!"

The average person knows 600 different people. If looking at people on a screen is the new definition of "meeting people," I can say I know probably 100 times that.

2. "It's funny."

Don't get me wrong, I love laughing! Having said that, there are many ways I can laugh and looking at people's profiles on a dating app does not have to be one of them.

3. "But you're single."

I'm glad you made that observation, but has anyone heard of meeting people...in person...when the time is right?

4. "You can use it just for fun!"

I get very distracted spying on people on Instagram, Snapchat, and occasionally Facebook, so using a dating app "just for fun" will certainly become yet another distraction.

5. "Everyone has one."

If I don't have one, not everyone has one. And if everyone was doing something life-threatening, does that mean I should do it too?

6. "It'll help you talk to people."

Part of the problem is that getting messages from strangers isn't actually "talking to people." It's very easy to "talk" to random people behind a screen.

7. "Relationships are made so much easier."

Yes, they probably are but I'm a staunch believer that anything worthwhile isn't easy.

8. "How else will you know what boys are around?"

I don't know, maybe by actually encountering them. Maybe I'll see some boys only by swiping left and right, but it's not like I'm living under a rock if I don't have a Tinder.

9. "But look at this cute guy!"

Oh, and cute guys are impossible to find anywhere else. I find that hard to believe.

10. "You can find out if someone likes you."

I wouldn't say somebody "likes me" if he makes a hasty decision to swipe right because of a few pictures of me.

11. "[Insert name of a boy I like] has one!"

Just because he made the choice to make one doesn't mean that I will. I'd rather be matched with him in the real world, not a virtual one.

12. "Aren't you desperate, though?"

I can't approach my dating life as though I'm desperate. If you're suggesting Tinder is for desperate people, I definitely will not use it.

13. "You get messages from so many guys!"

A sexual message or a corny pick-up line from a guy I don't know is not appealing to me. Sorry.

14. "Give it a chance."

If I said, "give it a chance" to different risky behaviors, would you still try them? "Give it a chance" is not a reason to do something, I'm sorry.

15. "Tinder is our generation's way of finding relationships."

Well, not for everybody. People who actually like to get to know potential soulmates in person are not extinct. I'm still here!

16. "You'll learn your preferences in men."

I don't think it's an incredible feat that I already know my preferences in men from observing them in the real world without the aid of a dating app.

17. "But you're too shy to find guys in the real world."

Gee, thanks. I appreciate the compliment.

18. "Aren't you interested in who you're matched with?"

Not really. Sorry.

19. "Just make your profile a joke."

Is there any point in that?

20. "I met my boyfriend on Tinder!"

Good for you. We all meet people in different ways, but I'm going to choose to meet mine differently.

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Newsflash: I'm not going to make one.

1. "You meet so many people!"

2. "It's funny."

3. "But you're single."

4. "You can use it just for fun!"

5. "Everyone has one."

6. "It'll help you talk to people."

7. "Relationships are made so much easier."

8. "How else will you know what boys are around?"

9. "But look at this cute guy!"

10. "You can find out if someone likes you."

11. "[Insert name of a boy I like] has one!"

12. "Aren't you desperate, though?"

13. "You get messages from so many guys!"

14. "Give it a chance."

15. "Tinder is our generation's way of finding relationships."

16. "You'll learn your preferences in men."

17. "But you're too shy to find guys in the real world."

18. "Aren't you interested in who you're matched with?"

19. "Just make your profile a joke."

20. "I met my boyfriend on Tinder!"

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

Obviously the best superpower.

There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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