More than ever, women need to stand up with each other, not against each other during the hardships that they face in today's society. Sadly, girl hate and bullying have become a popular trend throughout the decades, and it definitely hasn't been unnoticed. We struggle so much with our personality, our looks -- our self-esteem in general, that it's so easy to tear down another beautiful soul in order to restore our own in the meantime. But that's just not the answer. What if I told you that supporting each other instead of going against one another would help us like a domino effect? Because it really would.
First of all, women need to come to an understanding that while we are all different in our own unique ways and deal with polar opposite obstacles in life, we are still very much the same. In the grand scheme of things, we are experiencing a lot of similar hardships, such as harassment, inequality, the double standard and having to overcome the toxic messages from the fashion industry as they shove their expectations of beauty down our throats.
In the end, we're all battling some heavy stuff, and we are all under a lot of pressure. So why go against each other when we're already against so much already? Why waste so much energy, stress and unnecessary tears over the people who are enduring the same stuff? This time, let's recognize that other women are not our enemies; they are our allies.
I would just like to give an example of how awesome anti-girl hate is and it's simple, but super effective result it has. The other day while I was at work, this girl came in and she was super gorgeous, had pastel pink colored hair and neat tattoos. She seemed like a cool person, and I told her that she was really pretty and that I liked her style. She instantly smiled, told me that she loved my hair, that I had gorgeous eyes and that my "eyeliner was on point." We then briefly conversed over our mutual appreciation over people who can rock their make up because it's not easy.
Just little things like that are powerful, and the reason that they are so powerful is because we've submersed ourselves in girl hate and spending too much time focusing on the negative aspects of being a woman. We spend way too much time associating womanhood with mean girls, bullying and the awkwardness of embracing jealously. We have to rebuild our appreciation for sisterhood and remind people that it shouldn't be underestimate because it is a powerful thing. It's way easier and less exhausting to just step back and accept that all women are beautiful in their own unique way, and there is no use in comparing oneself to another. Tell a girl that she is pretty if you think so because it will mean a lot to her -- as we know how hard it is to be a woman in today's culture. When you do this, you will look and feel beautiful, too.
Women should come together and figure out ways to end the frustration of harassment, such as cat calling. If more women spent as much time standing up for each other as they do compete with each other, then there would be less hate and harassment in the world. Just think about that for a second.
Another important aspect to keep in mind is that the media, which is made up of the fashion industry, movies, TV shows, celebrities, music, magazines and advertisements galore (the list goes on and on) are already attacking us on how we should look and are giving young women unrealistic expectations of how they should look if they want to achieve beauty. There is already that unneeded pressure, so why attack each other as well when there is already an ongoing cultural war going on? Women should remind each other how beautiful they are and start movements, protests, voice their opinions and run down those toxic industries because this is not the world we want to live in. We shouldn't let those industries separate us, as they have already been doing for so long.
In the end, eliminating girl hate is the goal. It's exhausting try to compete with other women when it could be that much easier standing up to those who have caused us to even go against each other. We didn't do this to ourselves on purpose -- society did. Now I think it's time to come together and try to build one another up in the most positive and healthy ways that we can.
