To The Girl Who'd "Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign"

To The Girl Who'd "Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign"

It is 2018 and ignorance is no longer bliss.

To the girl who’d "rather raise a family than a feminist protest sign,"

I have a few questions for you (and concerns).

Let’s just start off with the fact that you are a hypocrite and a condescending one at that. You contend that you are aware of the trials and tribulations that many women before us have experienced in order to solidify our rightful place in society and that you are thankful for their contributions, but in the same breath are quick to patronize these women for taking advantage of their rights and voicing their opinions.

How does that make any sense? It doesn’t.

You’ve also failed to realize that everyone is different. Some women’s passions include pursuing a career and making a name for themselves, while others, including yourself, dream of being a mother and raising a family.


If one woman wants to be the CEO of a company and you want to drive your kids to soccer practice, there is absolutely nothing wrong with either one of those scenarios. I know women who are stay-at-home moms, I know women who have a career with no kids, and I know women who have both.

Neither of these women is better than the other. They are all equally amazing and respectable.

It is time women stopped competing over professional and personal aspirations, attempting to prove how one is more validated and significant than the other. You ask other women to “please stop (protesting) because it is insulting to the rest of us girls,” as if either of the situations had ANY correlation.

If you are offended by WOMEN, (which may I remind you that you are one), marching for WOMEN’S rights, and supporting other WOMEN, then your problem isn’t that you’re not a feminist, it’s that you’re ignorant.

You are not ignorant because you want to be a mom. You are not ignorant because you want to bake cookies for your children’s bake sale. And no, you are also not ignorant because you want to care for your husband.

I too, dream of doing these things.

Your ignorance comes to light when you believe that because some women do not share the same dreams as you, that this somehow has any effect on your own life.

Your ignorance comes to light when you complain that these protests and demonstrations make you feel like you HAVE to obtain a position of power.

Your ignorance comes to light when you have such little faith in women as a whole that you think that your choice to be a stay-at-home mother and tend to your family would come as a disappointment to our gender.

Your ignorance comes to light when you fail to realize that modern-day women are capable of assuming both roles and that whether or not they do is a CHOICE, one which you continue to belittle.

And your ignorance comes to light when you try to mask this same ignorance with seemingly supportive and passive aggressive comments such as “you want to do that? you go girl”, as if you have even an ounce of genuine support and appreciation in your body for other women.

“Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions,” you say?


Misguided assumptions and incomprehensible lines of reasoning aside, perhaps your largest display of ignorance is showcased when you COMPLETELY fail to understand the very fact that, had it not been for the brave and passionate women before you, the same women who participated in marches such as the one you are so quick to criticize, your ONLY choice, and your ONLY future would be tending to your home and your husband.

At the end of the day, this issue ultimately boils down to respect. When you, and others like yourself, come to acknowledge and respect the myriad of choices available to women to better themselves in today’s world, and come to respect other women in general, then perhaps we will all finally be united.

Until then, you can hide behind your white-picket fence.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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The Disrespectful Nature Of My Generation Needs To Stop

Why choosing phone games over a Holocaust survivor was my breaking point.


While many students that attended Holocaust survivor Hershel Greenblat's talk were rightfully attentive, I noticed, out of the corner of my eye, a few outlier students tapping away on their phones. They were minute movements, but inappropriate nonetheless.

Immediately I became infuriated. How, I thought, fuming, did my generation become so blithely unaware to the point where we could not proffer basic respect to a survivor of one of the most horrific events in human history?

Perhaps the students were just texting their parents, telling them that the event would run a bit long. 10 minutes later, my eyes diverted from Greenblat back to the students. They were still on their phones. This time, I could see the screens being held horizontally—indicating a game or a show was being played. I wanted to get up, smack the distractions out of their hands, and ask them why they thought what they were doing was more important than a Holocaust speaker.

I will not waste any more time writing about the disrespectful few. Because they could not give Greenblat the time of their day, I will not give them mine. Instead, I want to focus on a massive trend my generation has mistakenly indulged ourselves in.

The Greenblat incident is only an example of this phenomenon I find so confusing. From young, it was instilled in me, probably via Chinese tradition, that elders should be respected. It is a title only revoked when unacceptable behavior allows it to be, and is otherwise maintained. I understand that not everybody comes from a background where respect is automatically granted to people. And I see that side of the story.

Why does age automatically warrant respect? It is the fact that they have made it this far, and have interesting stories to tell. There are exceptions, perhaps more than there are inclusions.

But this fact can be determined by the simple act of offering an elderly person your seat on public transportation. Sure, it can be for their health, but within that simple act is a meaningful sacrifice for somebody who has experienced more than you.

Age aside, at Greenblat's talk, majority of the disrespect shown might not have been agist. Instead, it could have been the behavior students just there for the check-in check-out extra credit that multiple classes and clubs were offering. While my teachers who advertised the event stressed the importance of attendance not just for the academic boost, but for the experience, I knew that some of the more distracted students there must have been those selfish, ignorant, solely academic driven cockalorums.

I stay hopeful because majority of my classmates were attentive. We knew to put aside our Chromebooks, regardless of note-taking, and simply listen to what Greenblat had to offer.

It would be wrong to label my generation as entitled— that's a misnomer for the generation before. We are still wavering between the line of automatic respect and earned respect, but we need to set a line for people whom we know the stories of. Especially a Holocaust survivor.

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