I Am A Female And I Am So Over Feminists

I Am A Female And I Am So Over Feminists

I believe that I am a strong woman, but I also believe in a strong man.
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Beliefs are beliefs, and everyone is entitled to their opinion. I’m all about girl power, but in today’s world, it’s getting shoved down our throats. Relax feminists, we’re OK.

My inspiration actually came from a man (God forbid, a man has ideas these days). One afternoon my boyfriend was telling me about a discussion his class had regarding female sports and how TV stations air fewer female competitions than that of males. In a room where he and his other male classmate were completely outnumbered, he didn’t have much say in the discussion.

Apparently, it was getting pretty heated in the room, and the women in the class were going on and on about how society is unfair to women in this aspect and that respect for the female population is diminishing quickly.

If we’re being frank here, it’s a load of bull.

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First of all, this is the 21st century. Women have never been more respected. Women have more rights in the United States than anywhere else in the world. As far as sports go, TV stations are going to air the sports that get the most ratings. On a realistic level, how many women are turning on Sports Center in the middle of the day? Not enough for TV stations to make money. It’s a business, not a boycott against female athletics.

Whatever happened to chivalry? Why is it so “old fashioned” to allow a man to do the dirty work or pay for meals? Feminists claim that this is a sign of disrespect, yet when a man offers to pick up the check or help fix a flat tire (aka being a gentleman), they become offended. It seems like a bit of a double standard to me. There is a distinct divide between both the mental and physical makeup of a male and female body. There is a reason for this. We are not equals. The male is made of more muscle mass, and the woman has a more efficient brain (I mean, I think that’s pretty freaking awesome).

The male body is meant to endure more physical while the female is more delicate. So, quite frankly, at a certain point in life, there need to be restrictions on integrating the two. For example, during that same class discussion that I mentioned before, one of the young ladies in the room complained about how the NFL does not allow female athletes. I mean, really? Can you imagine being tackled by a 220-pound linebacker? Of course not. Our bodies are different. It’s not “inequality,” it’s just science.

And while I can understand the concern in regard to money and women making statistically less than men do, let’s consider some historical facts. If we think about it, women branching out into the workforce is still relatively new in terms of history. Up until about the '80s or so, many women didn’t work as much as they do now (no disrespect to the women that did work to provide for themselves and their families—you go ladies!). We are still climbing the charts in 2016.


Though there is still considered to be a glass ceiling for the working female, it’s being shattered by the perseverance and strong mentality of women everywhere. So, let’s stop blaming men and society for how we continue to “struggle” and praise the female gender for working hard to make a mark in today’s workforce. We’re doing a kick-ass job, let’s stop the complaining.

I consider myself to be a very strong and independent female. But that doesn’t mean that I feel the need to put down the opposite gender for every problem I endure. Not everything is a man’s fault. Let’s be realistic ladies, just as much as they are boneheads from time to time, we have the tendency to be a real pain in the tush.

It’s a lot of give and take. We don’t have to pretend we don’t need our men every once in a while. It’s OK to be vulnerable. Men and women are meant to complement one another—not to be equal or to over-power. The genders are meant to balance each other out. There’s nothing wrong with it.

I am all for being a proud woman and having confidence in what I say and do. I believe in myself as a powerful female and human being. However, I don’t believe that being a female entitles me to put down men and claim to be the “dominant” gender. There is no “dominant” gender. There’s just men and women. Women and men. We coincide with each other, that’s that. Time to embrace it.

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22 Post Malone ‘beerbongs & bentleys’ Lyrics College Kids Will Use As Insta Captions This Summer

It's here, and it's fire.
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If you didn't know, I am really not sure how you wouldn't know, but it's fine, Post Malone's new album FINALLY came out! Posty has time and time again proven that he's a trailblazer in the music industry. His genre is a mix of everything, from rap to acoustic guitar, and he sounds like he's at home in both settings.

Here it is, a list of Post Malone lyrics you'll use or see as Instagram captions. I can already feel it, this summer is Posty's summer –– a summer for "beerbongs & bentleys."

1. "Spoil My Night" - "Won't you come spoil my night?"

2. "Spoil My Night" - "Feelings come into play and I'm thinkin' this happens every time"

3. "Spoil My Night" - "Yeah, when I walk up in a party, they all act like they know me"

4. "Zack and Codeine" - "Been livin' fast, no I can't take it slowly"

5. "Zack and Codeine" - "But it don't mean nothing without all my people"

6. "Zack and Codeine" - "Pour that drink 'cause we ain't sleepin' tonight"

7. "Takin Shots" - "Heard that there's a party, I might pay a visit"

8. "Takin Shots" - "Baby, just for the night, you my soulmate"

9. "Over Now" - "I'ma turn the tables, promise you will not forget it"

10. "Stay" - "Damn, who are we right now?"

11. "Blame It On Me" - "These hurricanes inside of my brain"

12. "Same Bitches" - "Bottles on deck, and my drink full"

13. "Same Bitches" - "Population four million, how I see the same bitches?"

14. "Jonestown" - "It happens every time"

15. "92 Explorer" - "She in the front seat head bangin'"

16. "Sugar Wraith" - "And then I went and changed my life"

17. "Sugar Wraith" - "I take the lead, they just follow"

18. "Rockstar" - "Sayin, 'I'm with the band'"

19. "Rockstar" - "Livin’ like a Rockstar, I’m livin’ like a Rockstar"

20. "Rockstar" - "Sweeter than a Pop-Tart”

21. "Psycho" - "Can’t really trust nobody with all this jewelry on you"

22. "Psycho" - "I got homies, let it go"

Cover Image Credit: Post Malone // Instagram

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#MeToo Made Me Stronger, And It Can For You Too

I’ve found a lot of power in sharing my own #MeToo story. Now I’m working to help others share theirs.
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The movement sparked from the #MeToo campaign is creating a dialogue long overdue. Sexual assault has been around since the beginning of time, like all other abuses of the physical form. People are inherently vulnerable -- but I think that’s one of our greatest strengths. Sharing my own #MeToo story has helped me take control of a moment that was out of my control.

#MeToo Stats

According to Rainn.com, an American is sexually assaulted every 98 seconds. That’s astonishing and incredibly disturbing. Younger people are at the highest risk, with nearly 70% of victims under age 30. Women 18-34 bear 54% of that burden.

More than 1.7 million people from 85 countries tweeted #MeToo last October. Facebook counted more than 12 million posts, comments, and reactions from 4.7 million users in just the first 24 hours. 45% of Facebook users in the U.S. had friends who posted “Me Too”.

Exposing Experiences

At 22 years old, I’m all too familiar with the ever-present threat of sexual violence. When the #MeToo movement blossomed, I started evaluating my own experiences. I was 16 years old, reading a book at the beach when an overweight, intoxicated man in his 60’s decided to focus in on me.

I ignored him like someone would ignore a wasp in the hopes it will go away. When he lingered, I politely asked him to leave. But like the wasp would ignore those words, he chose to sting anyway -- in broad daylight with dozens of people watching -- leaving that 16-year-old crying in her car, trying to call any friend that would listen.

That’s the moment I think about when I think about #MeToo because I felt completely defenseless. But it’s not the only story. There was the frat boy who assertively assumed I would be into unprotected sex because I danced with him for a few minutes. I shut him down without hesitation, but he followed me the remainder of the night -- maybe thinking he could get me to change my mind.

Add that to regular catcalls, drivers who slow down in traffic to stare at you, or the disgusting creep at nightclubs who takes advantage of close quarters to lean his groin against you and your friends. When I told that one to back off, he stuck his tongue out at me, thinking it was appropriate to mimic cunnilingus. Just a few weeks ago, a group of strangers pulled at my shirt as I walked past them at a bar. I could go down the rabbit hole here, but as my friends and I started swapping these stories, I realized the power we hold in our ability to tell them.

It’s terrifying to feel like you’re not in control of your circumstances. You feel very alone. But the #MeToo movement showed the world we’re not. Understanding how many men and women have suffered similar events brings strength to our vulnerability, and gives a visual meaning to the idea of strength in numbers. If you’re a survivor, you can anonymously share your story here .

The Power of Vulnerability

The vulnerability that makes people targets is the same vulnerability that allows us to make a significant change. One courageous tweet enabled millions of others to be courageous, too. Vulnerability is bringing down Hollywood kingpins like Cosby and Weinstein.

It’s bringing down the colleague that makes inappropriate jokes, the person who goes too far at a party, the old man hanging out at a women’s clothing store. It’s helping to shift a toxic culture we’ve accepted for far too long. So to the aggressors who have preyed on vulnerability, I regret to inform you the hunter has become the hunted. Strength grows from weakness, and now your time is up.

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