Wiz Khalifa's 'Hopeless Romantic' Perfectly Describes Dating Today

'Hopeless Romantic' Perfectly Defines The Mess That Is Dating In 2018

Wiz Khalifa and Swae Lee couldn't have sung it any better.

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What even is dating these days? Guy and girl catch feelings, but one is still hooked on their ex while the other is finally ready to open up again. One might expect relationship things but never expects to put a label on it.

The best way to put it is that dating in 2018 is f***ed up.

I just saw Wiz Khalifa perform "Hopeless Romantic" at his Dazed and Blazed Tour (highly recommend, 10/10 experience) and it made me do some thinking about dating, which I have yet to get back into. The lyrics of the song explain the thought process of so many guys and gals everywhere when it comes to dating, and I'm going to show you just how through specific lyrics.

"Night goes into morning, all the time, and through my phone I'm scrolling, bang my line"

This generation is SO absorbed in their phones and social media. We meet people through apps more than we do in real life. It goes down in the DM or a swipe right, and it's all too superficial. We scroll through potential matches the way we scroll through Instagram pictures before bed, mindlessly and without any real intent. Communication is strictly through text, not much calling is done. FaceTime helps counteract this, but its real face time we're missing out on. Some people will always message you at night because they're lonely. While it's nice to get their attention, it's not the kind you deserve and you know it. Be the 8 A.M. "good morning" text, not the 11 P.M. "are you up?" one.

"Off that drink it's hard to focus (focus)"

We have to get sloppy drunk just to muster up the courage to talk to that cutie at the party or message a Tinder match something risky. However, if we get rejected, it's more of a reason to drink and avoid facing rejection in the face. It's easier to laugh something off when you're drunk, but when you're sober, you're forced to face your feelings. My generation struggles with real communication and processing of feelings, and feel as though we cannot be our true selves sometimes due to seeing those "it" people, who tend to be particularly judgemental. The second and more muted way Lee says "focus" calls for us to focus on ourselves and what we want.

"Seems like I'm always chosen by romantics that are hopeless"

Happens to me all the time. I happen to be a hopeless romantic myself, despite all the hurt I've been through recently. We think we found what we've been hoping for, just to find out they aren't willing to put a label on it, or they're too hung up on an ex to date someone else, or won't put their focus onto you, and never want make you the priority you know you are. They cannot offer us the moon and the stars, because they're too busy keeping them to themselves. We all deserve to be hopelessly romantic with someone that gives it right back to us. The right people somehow end up with the wrong ones, until one day their back luck turns to good.

"I might just do you like we lovin', yeah or make you my numero uno"

Friends with benefits is a relationship far too many people of my generation fall into. It's an almost relationship and those are heart-wrenching in the end because it doesn't last and blossom into a real, labeled relationship. You may not be THE girl or guy to change the commitment-phobe, and ultimately you'll leave them knowing what you want, and what you don't want, and you won't be afraid to be picky. We all want to be numero uno to someone, that's the goal after all, and it will happen as it's fated to. Everyone deserves loyalty and to be elevated to girlfriend or boyfriend status and nothing less.

"Don't talk to me about your ex you know I'm that times two"

I can't stress this enough. WHY ARE WE SO HUNG UP ON OUR EX'S?? I was, but I move on fast from old relationships because dwelling on someone who is not giving you a second thought is such a waste of your beautiful soul. We may find it hard at first to live a day without thinking of them, but slowly, we forget and grow to see the day as ours alone, without their shadow lurking. We have to stop letting our ex's get the better of us. Move on. There is someone way better in every which was possible out there just waiting to meet someone like you.

"Making a mess and cleaning it up when we done"

Speaking of messes. Stop this messy hooking up with a guy with a girlfriend, or letting a girl with a boyfriend cross that line when it comes to those flirty snaps she's sending you. People have become so good at sneaking around, whether it's in a friendship or with a significant other. People have perfected the art of being fake, myself included because we don't want the stress of ending a toxic relationship. Things can be said and done and swept under the rug just to keep face. Let's air our dirty laundry and be real people.

Songs are poetry whether we sit there and realize it or not. They comment on real things, and "Hopeless Romantic" comments on modern dating in the perfect way.

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.
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They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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To The Ex Who Won’t Move On, It’s Time To Let Go

Moving on is hard, but it’s time for you to realize I’m gone.

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It's been a year. It's been 365 days since I left you. I was ready for a change. Our relationship was unhealthy and very toxic. We argued constantly. You were very controlling, and it was time to end it. You knew you were the issue in the relationship and you knew what needed to be fixed.

You couldn't change.

After figuring out I couldn't live the rest of my life unhappy, I left. It was hard no doubt. We had good memories, but the bad outweighed the good. You never appreciated me. You weren't loyal to me and I never understand why. You always made me feel as if I was never enough.

I finally left you. You couldn't accept the fact that I was done. I told you I discovered my self-worth and you were angry. You didn't want to see me go. You called and texted me for weeks.

I ignored you.

You were so mad because I was finally done. You had convinced yourself that I would come back but little did you know, I wouldn't. You called and texted daily. You even called my job. You didn't understand. I could no longer listen to ongoing insults and constant accusations. I had enough of it.

When I didn't respond to your calls and texts, you began using text apps and calling me from restricted. You wouldn't stop. When you found out I moved on, it got worse. I begged you to stop and you wouldn't. I finally stopped responding. You still continue to try to contact me.

I need you to move on. I want to put everything behind us. I want you to go out and find someone to make you happy. I need you to realize you and I are over. I want you to move on like I did. I am happy now and I don't need you ruining that. To my ex who is struggling to move on, it's time to let go and move on.

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