5 Big Things I Wish I Would Have Said Before I Lost You

5 Big Things I Wish I Would Have Said Before I Lost You

I wish I could have said these things to you, Grandma, just one more time.

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For those that have experienced the loss of a loved one, there are many things we wish we could have said before it was too late. The problem is, we never get these things off our chest, and wrestle around with what could have been if we had said these things. So, before it's too late, make sure you tell a loved one these things. I know, in dealing with the loss of grandma a few years ago, that there were plenty of things I wish I would have said, here are a few of them.

1. "Thank you"

Too often, the people that take care of us are taken for granted. After all, parents and grandparents are there to take care of us, right? Even then, we should still say thank you for the investments that these loved ones have put into us. Doing this will make your loved one feel appreciated, and well, loved.

2. "You inspire me"

Witnessing an immigrant grandmother come and raise 5 kids of her own and 13 grandchildren, I was truly inspired as to how I want to be as an adult. Selfless, caring, attentive and unconditionally loving. These traits of her are things that I try to embody in my everyday life and should be things every good human displays. Everyone has good things about them. Think about those traits in your loved one, and how they inspire you to go about everyday life.

3. "Sorry"

Even with unconditional love, there was plenty of times that I wish I would have apologized for asking my loved one for too much or turning my back when I shouldn't have. These things stick with me still today and serve as some of my biggest regrets as things I could have and should have done differently.

4. "I'll miss you" 

So many times, I left my loved one without telling them how I would miss them. Now, since they're gone, I reflect on the last time I said goodbye to my grandma, not knowing that it was the last time I would see her. This still ways so heavily on me, because you never know when your last chance to see someone will be. So, make sure you tell those loved ones how thankful you are and how much you will miss them until you see them again.

5. "I love you" 

Cheesy, I know. But this one is the most significant. You can never tell someone that you love them enough. Everybody needs to know that they're loved. We all struggle with insecurities and knowing that you're loved by someone can go a long way in patching those insecure thoughts for the time being. So, get out and tell your loved one how much you love them.

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23 Names Moms Of Millennials Have, And What Kind Of Mom They Probably Are

Behind every millennial is a mom with one of these common names.
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It's always interesting to learn the first names of my friends' mothers.

Most of the time, their name fits them perfectly. Behind every millennial is a mom with one of these common names.

1. Karen

Karen is smart, reliable and a friend to everyone she meets. She loves to go above and beyond. If you have a question, you call Karen, and she always has the answer.

2. Barbara, AKA Barb

Barb can get a little sassy, especially if she's had a few glasses of wine. Barb loves to laugh and have a good time. Beware: she might steal your clothes from your closet.

3. Jennifer


Jennifer is the hot mom who doesn't look a day over 30. She was popular in high school, and she's still popular now. She's not a regular mom: she's a cool mom.

4. Pam

Pam has the best chocolate chip cookie recipe in town. She loves going to bake sales and antique stores, and she gives great hugs. Pam makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside. There's not a mean bone in her body.

5. Michelle

Michelle is a born caregiver. She loves taking care of others and is especially great at being a mom. All the best moms are named Michelle.

6. Carla

Carla love boat rides and beer. She has at least one shirt with an American flag on it.

7. Lisa

Lisa is so responsible, it's scary. You know Lisa was put on this earth to mother everyone she meets, even complete strangers.

8. Nicole

Nicole is hip and trendy, especially if she goes by Nikki. Nicole thinks she's pretty cool, and even though they might not want to admit it, her kids think so too.

9. Brenda

Brenda has a great smile. She radiates happiness everywhere she goes. If Brenda was a color, she'd be yellow.

10. Tammy

Tammy is a teenager trapped in an adult body. She loves to be tan and spend time outdoors. Everyone knows Tammy has an alter ego when she drinks, and she's usually hilarious.

11. Kathy/Katherine

Kathy/Katherine is the laid-back mom who would secretly fight anyone that hurt their baby. Don't cross a Kathy/Katherine.

12. Nancy

Nancy sometimes loses her temper and then immediately second-guesses her parenting. It's probably because she's working too hard and not drinking enough wine. Give your mom a break.

13. Mary


Mary is an angel that fell to Earth. There's no way anyone could have beef with Mary. Give Mary a hug; she deserves it.

14. Janet

Janet's goofy, but she's really good at hiding it. Once she relaxes, though, Janet has the best laugh. She's also got a heart of gold.

15. Stacy

Stacy's that mom who will come to all of your baseball games twenty minutes early with a picnic basket full of sandwiches for the whole team. She loves wearing her hair in a ponytail and lives in her Mom Jeans.

16. Susan

Susan has a pretty severe resting bitch face, but don't let it fool you. She knows how to get down. Susan's purse is covered in buttons -- you know the kind: a headshot of a kid playing sports. She probably drives a minivan.

17. Amy/Aimee

Amy/Aimee never ages. She's fun to be around and has friends of all ages. Amy/Aimee works hard and is successful because of it. If anyone deserves happiness, it's Amy/Aimee.

18. Sherry

Sherry's great on the days you need a little pick-me-up. She might not be the best person to call in a crisis, but she sure knows how to make you smile.

19. Melissa

Melissa is beautiful. When you're with Melissa, it's easy to forget there's anyone else around. It must be hard having a mom who's hotter than you.

20. Stephanie

Stephanie is a pretty cool mom, especially on the weekends. She loves getting her hair done, her dog and drinking fruity frozen drinks with a little umbrella.

21. Cindy


Cindy's got an attitude. She might look sweet, but don't let her fool you. Don't bring your boyfriends or girlfriends to meet Cindy unless you're really serious about them, because she might scare them away.

22. Tiffany

No one knows how to break it down like Tiffany. She loves to dance. Wherever she goes, the party follows.

23. Carol

Carol is the strict mom who likes to give lectures at every opportunity. Don't be so hard on her though: she means well. Cut your mom some slack, kids.

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10 Things All Latino Moms Say, On A Regular Basis

You've probably heard at least one of these things growing up with a Latino mom.

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My childhood was always a bit different from everybody else's growing up with a single mom, but in the Latino culture, my mom always had something to tell me. Your mom probably said the same things, too.

1. "Hay comida en casa" (There's food at home)

If you're ever out with your mom and are really craving a fast-food place or to eat at any other restaurant, chances are you are not going to eat there.

Latino moms will always tell you that there's food at home even when there's not.

2. "Te comes lo que hay" ( You have to eat what there is)

Being a picky eater is not an option in a Latino household.

Whatever they put in front of your plate, that's what you have to eat! There's definitely no escaping from that.

3. "Que te hago si lo encuentro yo" (The things that I would do to you if I find it)

Yep, we have all been in that situation where we can't find something and ask our mom where it is.

But, for some reason when we look for it, we can't find it anywhere.

If you tell this to your Latino mom, she has most likely threatened you in some way shape or form, telling you that she will do something to you if she finds it!

Most of the time, were fearing for our lives and praying to God that she doesn't find the thing we're looking for.

4. "O limpias o no sales" ( You have to clean or else, you're not going out)

If you have a Latino friend and for some reason they don't hang out with you that day, its most likely because their mom didn't allow them to.

Certain house chores must be completed for a Latino mom to let you go out and if the house is not clean, she will keep you until the place is spotless.

5. "Te lo tragas por que no me lo regalan ( You have to eat it because I don't get it for free)

This relates to number 2 in the list over the topic of picky-eating not being optional in a Latino household. Latino parents work hard to feed their children and they make sure that you know that!

6. "Solo cuando tengas hijos vas a entender" ( You're only going to understand when you have children of your own)

This one is kind of self-explanatory!

Latino parents believe that you will only understand why they do the things they do when you become a parent yourself.

7. "Ven aqui que no te voy a hacer nada" ( Come here because I am not going to do anything to you)

WARNING: THIS IS AN ULTIMATE LIE!

This was most likely said when you locked yourself somewhere or hid yourself from your mom, so that way you didn't receive a whoopin' from her.

But, when you began trusting her and approaching her with caution, she most likely had a "chancla" hidden in her back to spank you with----this is why most Latino kids grow up with trust issues.

8. "Te calmas o te calmo" ( Either you calm down, or I'll calm you down)

If you're crying for what your mom believes is an invalid reason, then they for sure will give you a reason to cry for if you don't calm down.

9. "Un dia me van a matar de un coraje ( One day you're going to kill me from anger)

Latino moms will get very, very, very, VERY angry when you don't listen to them.

So, they will always tell us that one day we're going to kill them due to the anger that we're causing them.

10.  "Ponte Zapatos o te vas a enfermar" (Put shoes on or you're going to get sick)

Even if you're inside the home relaxing, your mom will always want you to have slippers on. No matter what, every Latino mom believes that if you don't have slippers on when you walk around the house, you will die.

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