As we go through life, we constantly go through trials and tribulations. In each experience we have, there is always a lesson to be learned, either the easy way or the hard way. The way that we grow and form with these lessons is what makes us who we are. We learn how to deal with disappointments, fear and uncertainty, and how to cope with tragedy. The main thing to focus on is that we will not be given something that we can not handle. We will not be broken.
Each person has a figure drawn in their head of how other individuals should act and how things should pan out in the end. Often times, we get caught off guard if they do not go the way we expect. This allows room for disappointments to be made as if it had a head start. And when the disappointment occurs, the never ending questions begin. "Why would they do that? What was going through their head? Was the thought of me not enough?" These are questions that we constantly ask and never get answers because in the end, no answer will ever be satisfying. We learn that people and things change and we will never understand the ram of things. We learn that we have to push through and look over our disappointments in people and situations and think of the positive that is yet to come.
When we get hurt and drug down by life or people, we develop fear and uncertainty. Fear is "an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat." It is like a recurring sickness that is draining and it can't be controlled. Our minds take over a situation and make us scared and uncertain of our safety either physically or mentally. We have to in turn kill the these things by having faith that is stronger than any idea that we can build up in our head as the worst case scenario. The feeling of overcoming a fear is something that can't be topped in life. It gives us a sense of strength and power within our inner selves.
With tragedy comes healing. Dealing with something that rips you apart can be very difficult. We all cope differently and at different speeds and duration. Whether it be through tears, isolating yourself from the rest of the world, or simply talking to someone, something has to give. After tragedy strikes, we feel as if we will never get better, like we have hit rock bottom. But the day you realize you have overcome the fall, you grow ten times stronger and wiser than you were before.
Wondering why something happened will never be fully answered, yet we dwell on that time and time again. Personally, the one thing that gets me through my toughest days is just knowing that there is someone out there that is or will be going though the same thing I am. The feeling of knowing that I can help someone else with my most painful experiences is what keeps me going. There is a reason that you were chosen to deal with these things, embrace it the best you can! The fact of the matter is that we will not be handed something that we can not handle. Yes, it will be hard, but we will not be broken.
