13 Times I Won't Apologize For Saying 'No'

13 Times I Won't Apologize For Saying 'No'

Who says I have to say yes to ANYTHING just to appease society if I, myself, don't want to?
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Most people who respond with 'no' to questions or comments are pegged as mean, rude, and anti-social. Who says I have to say yes to ANYTHING just to appease society if I, myself, don't want to?

1. No, I will not go out with you tonight.

It's not because I don't like you or don't enjoy your company, I'm just tired and/or flat out have no desire to. And I should not be expected to go out just to make YOU happy.

2. No, I will not have another drink.

Or, I won't even have one drink. Why do you feel you need to peer pressure me into alcohol? If you want to drink, fine. Doesn't mean I have to just because YOU said so.

3. No, I will not pretend I like *insert name here* just to make things easier.

If I do not like you, whatever the reason may be, why would I waste my time and energy creating a fake relationship that doesn't exist? We both have better things to do.

4. No, I will not go out on a double date to make you feel less awkward.


If you like this person, great. Why should I have to sit with his awkward af brother so YOU can have a good time?

5. No, you cannot borrow *some article of clothing*.

The last time I let you borrow something it took 3 weeks to get it back, and you shrunk it in the wash.

6. No, I will not contact your S.O. for you.

Girl, if you need someone else to get involved in your relationship to 'fix things', your relationship isn't worth fixing.

7. No, I will not filter my social media for others.

I will post on MY page what I want when I want. If you don't like what you see, the unfollow button is at the top of the page.

8. No, you cannot 'borrow' my homework.

I will absolutely help you out. But as far as just giving you my work? I worked for hours on that stupid lab report, you don't get off with 20 minutes of copying. Did I mention that's academic misconduct?

9. No, I will not take that class with you next semester.

Why on earth would I take a class that has no benefit to my major? So you have a buddy? I'm not paying for credit hours just to socialize.

10. No, I will not tiptoe around men in fear of damaging their masculinity.

If you made me mad, I will tell you. If I am uncomfortable, I will tell you. If I don't like something in bed, you better bet I am going to tell you.

11. No, I will not continue to humor high school relationships.

If we are still BFFs that's great! But if we were barely friends in high school why would you want to hang out on breaks? Even if we were BFFs and grew apart, that's ok too. We are going on separate paths and that's life.

12. No, I won't apologize for spending 24/7 with my S.O.

Out of all of the people I dislike, he is one of the few that I do. Why wouldn't I want to spend all of my time with someone that makes me happy?

13. I surely am not going to apologize for voicing my opinions.

In today's society, everyone is expected to say yes. If someone asks something of you, you say yes with a smiling face. That needs to change. If someone/ something makes you uncomfortable or even the slightest bit unhappy, don't be afraid to say no. And surely, don't apologize for it.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.
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The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.

Sincerely,

the loving granddaughters

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You Don't Have To See Your Friends Every Day

We all have lives that we're trying to balance.

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For as long as I can remember, whenever I would have no plans and go on Snapchat to see all my friends having fun without me, I would get FOMO. I'd get really sad and think that they didn't care about me because they didn't invite me. It would get me in such a bad mood that it would ruin any chance of going out with someone else who wanted to hang out.

I don't know if it was just my anxiety of people hating me or if it was a fear of missing out (FOMO). Even recently, it has gotten me down. However, over the past month or so, I finally realized something: you don't have to hang out every day to still consider each other friends.

Everyone has a life that they're trying to balance, especially after high school. People work (maybe even more than one job) and go to school. Some have to take care of family members or do things for their family. Some people are focusing on themselves. Some have relationships to maintain. Whatever it is, we all have lives that we're trying to balance.

We all want to have fun, but school, work, and our families are the priorities.

Even if they're out hanging with other people, it doesn't mean that they don't want to hang out with you. Free time is served on a "first come, first serve" basis. It's hard to balance hanging out with multiple people.

I also learned that it doesn't matter the number of friends you have. What truly matters is the quality. Ask yourself, "Who's there for me when I really need someone?" The people who are there for you when you really need someone to talk to are your TRUE friends.

It's not easy to be there for someone and make them feel better. If they offer to listen or give advice, they care!

I know that it may feel like you have no friends sometimes, but that's not true. Life after high school is hard at times. You're an adult. You have to do adult things and take care of yourself first.

You have to realize that everyone has a busy schedule and not all your friends' schedules will align with yours, but that's okay! You don't need to hang out with friends every day to consider them your friends. What truly matters is if they are there for you when you need them.

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