There is a famous quote that says, “If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. And if they don’t, they never were.” Being left in the dust after a failed attempt at a relationship is a feeling that nobody ever wants to experience. It feels like failure, defeat and you want to pick up all the pieces and put them back together, but you can’t. You were willing to give them the world and then they decided that maybe they didn’t want the world—or at least not from you.
And I get it. You loved them and they were so great and they made you so happy and you don’t know what you’re going to do without them, but let me ask you this: If they were so great, why would they leave you? If they made you so happy, how could they so easily walk away to make someone else happy? And as for not knowing what you’re going to do without them, you’re going to get over them. You’re going to walk away and say goodbye to all of the pain and hurt that you don’t deserve.
Obviously saying goodbye and closing your heart to someone you love is not an easy task—even when you know it is what is best for you. That person could give you a million reasons to leave but you continue to search for that one reason to stay.
But the truth is, it isn’t worth it.
If they found someone else and left you, they've done you a favor. Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who has one foot out the door? And do you really think that controlling someone can stop them from cheating or leaving? Because it can’t. The person who is worth keeping is the person who has unlimited freedom to do anything, and still wants to be with you. The person who has trouble deciding what they want and can’t seem to commit themselves to you, is not.
Maybe it’s because something better always comes along, or the fact that people are so wrapped up in the idea that the grass is always greener on the other side. People give up on relationships way too easy and are always wanting the next best thing, when in reality, the best thing for them is probably already standing right there in front of them.
Stop wasting your love on the person who didn’t want to love you back. I promise you that the day will come when they realize that you were the best thing for them. And in the end, it will be their loss—not yours. So say goodbye to the past, say goodbye to the hurt, and say goodbye to the person you [used to] love.
