Change. It’s something that I think all of us are so afraid of. And believe me, change is a very scary thing to face. It’s hard to imagine changing our life, and moving on from people who were once such a big part of it. I think one of the hardest changes that we can face in life is moving on from someone you once loved and couldn’t imagine your life without. But what we have to realize is that not everything and everyone in our life is permanent. It’s almost inevitable that everyone will go through a break up at least one time in their life, and whether you’re the one being broken up with or the one breaking it off, it doesn’t make it any less painful.
Maybe you’re heartbroken because someone who promised they would “never leave you,” did. And believe it or not, that happens way too often in life. Sometimes people make promises they don’t have the potential of living up to and it is hard to accept that. It’s hard to believe that someone you would go above and beyond for, won’t do the same for you.
As painful and heartbreaking as it is, the only way to move past a break up is to move on. Okay, yes I know “it’s not that easy”, believe me I understand that. But what I see people do the most is continuing to argue and check up on their ex by stalking them on social media to see what they’re doing. Let me tell you one thing, that will do you no good and you will most likely not like what you see. Chances are, you’re going to come across a picture of him with that one girl you always worried about, or him just continuing to live his life without you and that will break your heart even more.
When someone breaks up with you, you have to accept their decision. You can’t force someone to want to be with you, and you certainly cannot force someone to love you. Sometimes the only thing you can do is accept what they want because you love them, and walk away. There’s no point in pining over someone who isn’t able to reciprocate the feelings. You’ve got to love yourself enough to never accept less than what you deserve. You shouldn’t want to be with someone who only has the potential to half love you, because someday you’ll find someone who will make you their whole world.
Another thing that comes along with a break up is anger. Don't get me wrong, It is okay to be mad at someone who hurt you, but you can’t waste all your energy holding onto that, because the only person who that ends up hurting is you. Accepting things as they are and letting go of all the anger you have against them, is the best thing you can do for yourself. They ended things for a reason, and you can't fault someone for only being honest in the way that they feel about you, even if they went about it the wrong way.
When you get your heart broken it’s hard to imagine the light at the end of the tunnel. But you have to believe that things will get better. It hurts now and it is going to hurt for awhile, but you will heal. All the breaks in your heart make you into the person who you are meant to be. They will only make you stronger.
The person you’re meant to be with will come along, just be patient and open your mind to new experiences and people and before you know it you’ll look back and realize how much you’ve grown. You’ll realize that you are okay without that person you thought you couldn't live without, maybe even better off.
You have to learn to love yourself and find true happiness in everything you do. Start to surround yourself with positive people who only want the best and only the best for you. After all, those are the only type of people that you should want in your life. We have a lifetime, it hurts now but this bump in the road is only temporary, you’ll find your way around it.
