Yo, JBiebs, loving ourselves doesn't make us cruel and self centered so why don't you chill?

Is it too late to say sorry? Maybe, but you're forgiven if you take on an understanding.

It takes a lot for girls to feel confident and secure. Even the most chill, brush-it-off, whatever kind of girl has some tiny flaw that she focuses on whether it is physical or not. There are so many sayings out there in the world, "Look like this to be wanted" or "Be-YOU-tiful" or "Men want this"...blah blah blah. It's contradictory and it is not okay. We've heard the quote "If we say we are pretty, we are self centered. If we say we are ugly, we are vying for attention". Society won't let us win.

But why does society get to determine whether natural or fake is best? Why are women pulling each other down when we should be building each other up?

Yes, I will point out that some girls, and guys too, are majorly into their looks and have ridiculous expectations of how they should look and what they should wear and they only base their friend group on those who are rich and beautiful. It's not right, because then we feel like we aren't good enough. But we are.

Let's look at a major company who's main mission is all about untouched photos and the real you being an amazing you: Aerie. They recently did an underwear ad with a guy who was skinnier than the model. Now doesn't the world want us to think that guys should be bigger than girls to be handsome and girls have to be a stick to be beautiful? Well this ad blows that thinking out of the water. How? The girl has curves and the guy a small frame...what makes them attractive? The pure confidence that radiates from their faces because they are happy with how they look, how they're built.

So how do we, both male and female, the most insecure generation, get this confidence?

We begin to love ourselves. We do not stare at ourselves in the mirror and wish about things we could change. They don't need to be changed, they are beautiful because they are natural. Instead we look at our reflection and find something good in ourselves physically. Next, we look at our character, and begin to love ourselves for our ambition, or passion, or talents. And every day, we must find something about ourselves that we are grateful for, and that is how we begin to love ourselves. We should want to let the world know that we feel attractive, empowered, capable, and worthy. Once we learn to love ourselves, we cannot let others tell us what we shouldn't love about ourselves. People are going to love their own traits, and their favorite traits are going to be different then your favorite traits. It's based on an individuals values, but that does not make your traits or their traits any better or any worse. So learn to love yourself. Love your flaws and your imperfections. Let your confidence shine because when you feel complete and secure, you feel empowered. And when you are empowered you can change the world.

So love. Love your body, your personality, your thoughts, your goals. Love other people. We don't need each other telling us that we aren't good enough or that you shouldn't think so highly of yourself. We need each other to admire our confidence, our strength. We need to pick each other up, and let each other know that we are beautiful or handsome because we are confident.

So, JBiebs, let us love ourselves, and you love yourself, and let's love each other. We cannot be built up as a confident, unified generation if you and others are telling us we should not love ourselves. We cannot do great things if at first we cannot accomplish the greatest task of all: self love.