I came to the realization, that there is nothing wrong with spending your Friday night alone, in your empty apartment with a good book or a good movie and with some delicious food.

So many people are scared of being alone. Staying in, when everybody else is out partying their lives away. It is the fear of missing out, that makes you change your peace and solitude for clubs with sweaty people and too loud music.

I used to be like this. I was constantly worried I would miss out on something, that my friends would like me less, because I'd much rather stay at home, then hang out with them.

I tried to go out more. I went to clubs, pretended to like the atmosphere and engaged in the small talk made over over prized drinks.

I hated it.

I decided it was okay to miss out on things. To stay in. To spend time alone, in my own company, with nothing but my own thoughts. The fear of missing out got replaced by the absolute feeling of solitude.

I love my own company. Even if it is a little too much sometimes. I don't need somebody else to fill my schedule, I am planning my day, so I have at least a couple hours to myself. To review the events of the day, to mediate, to read or simply to enjoy the silence.

Not fearing alone time, comes with a lot of benefits I never really was aware of.

You don't care about what people think of you.

I used to be worried what people would be thinking of me.

Now I couldn't care less. You want to call me boring, even lame or antisocial? That's okay. It's the truth. If staying in on a Friday night is considered lame, then yes I am lame.

You don't worry about impressing other people.

You don't like me for who I am? That's okay. The only person I am trying to impress is myself. I am my own worst critic. I am not trying to pretend I am somebody I am not. If you don't like me, then we don't have to hang out. Trust me, it won't bother me. I prefer surrounding myself with people, who accept me for who I am. The real me, not somebody they want me to be.

You are never worried about doing things you don't want to do.

If I don't feel like leaving my apartment for a whole day, I won't do it. I am not just doing something, because I don't know what else to do with my time. You will never find me in a bar on a Saturday night, just because I didn't know what else to do. Simply won't happen.

You are never worried about keeping conversations alive.

One thing you learn when you spend a lot of time alone is that silence isn't a bad thing. Finding somebody you can be silent with together is one of the greatest things in life. Unfortunately silence makes a lot of people uncomfortable, so they try to fill it, with small talk.

If I don't have anything important to say, I will be silent. It is not my intention to make you uncomfortable and I don't want to be rude, but why waste words on topics that are not worth talking about.

Why are so many people afraid of being alone?

People often times assume, that spending time alone means you either don't have any friends, or something is entirely wrong with you.

We prefer surrounding ourselves with the wrong company, instead of being in your own company.

Yes, having no contact to other human beings isn't healthy BUT spending time alone every day for a few hours isn't just beneficial, it is very much necessary.

Take time to get to know yourself, enjoy being single and screw the constant need for attention.

Love being alone and see how it will change your life.