Why Spanking Your Kids Is OK

Why Spanking Your Kids Is OK

Spanking your kids isn't child abuse...it's common sense
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First, I would like to make something clear before getting into this topic. I in no way, shape or form condone child abuse…spanking your child when it is needed is NOT child abuse; it’s common sense. That being said, it is pretty clear the difference between children whose parents spank them when needed, and children whose parents don’t believe in or are afraid to spank them. We wonder why children seem to be more unruly, disrespectful and generally bad, compared to past generations. We now live in a society where everyone has an opinion on every topic and everyone is a parenting expert.

Think back to past generations, including my own. It was the norm to spank your child when they were being disrespectful, throwing a tantrum, etc. Yet now, we have parents who instead choose to reward bad behavior in hopes of...? Instead of parenting their children, they are giving them what they want to shut them up, giving them an iPad to play games on, or sitting them in front of the television so they won’t have to deal with them, when one good smack on the bottom will do the trick.

I was spanked as a child, and I do not suffer from any psychological disorders-- well one, which is called "Respect for Others." I also do not live in fear of my parents because they spanked me a handful of times my entire life when I deserved it. I do not have resentment for them for teaching me how to act. I have respect for them and am thankful that they spanked me as a child. It is not something any parent wants to do, but sometimes a child makes it a necessary form of discipline.

Parenting is difficult; no one ever said it is an easy job, but instilling the most basic expectations and rules for your child, such as, respecting their parents, respecting others, knowing how to appropriately act in public, and treat others as they would like to be treated, we all know the sort of expectations our parents held us to as children and growing up, that is the easy part of parenting. I think of it like the teachers in school who make it clear the first day of classes what their expectations for their students are. It makes both the teacher's and the students' jobs much easier knowing what they need to do to be productive; that is no different than the expectations a parent has for a child, and if parents are not making their expectations clear to their children, their relationship will suffer because of it.

So, please get a grip people, stop being afraid of spanking your kids; it will be clear when it is necessary. You are not a bad parent for disciplining your child when it is needed; you are making their future better, you are teaching them how to be respectful, productive members of society, and for that, I am thankful.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.
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Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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To The Best Friend Every Girl Should Be Blessed Enough To Have

You definitely deserve all the love.

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I have not written this letter, but it has been on my list of "to write" for forever. She keeps asking when I will write one about her and every time I tell her, soon.

Well here it is. The truth on why it took so long? No words seem to do everything justice. No matter how I put them or how I want them to sound, the page always makes them look weird and they always sound lame.

But finally, here it is. Best friend, this one is for you.

First and foremost I will start with a holy cow. We have been best friends for only a short time because who knew your "in school friend" from all those math classes would actually turn into this? We put off hanging out outside of school for years, and finally, after suffering through all that algebra we decided enough was enough.

I wish we had sooner.

I wish I had gotten more time with you before we both moved away to college - but ill take whatever time I get with you because well… you're incredible.

Thank you.

Thank you for finally agreeing to hang out with me.

Thank you for listening to every rant ever - whether it was a paragraph long text, a 2 hour FaceTime call or an hour-long car ride.

Thank you for ordering planners with me and spending nights decorating them with me (we are such losers).

Thank you for letting me become a part of your family.

Thank you for going to Friendly's, IHOP and Target at the most ungodly hours.

Thank you for encouraging me in everything I do, and stopping me from making bad decisions.

Thank you for telling me the truth, despite if it hurt me or not, I know now you will never lie about your feelings towards someone (LOL).

Basically, thank you for everything you have done for me. You have made me a better person and you encourage me to be my best self every single day.

Moving on I want to make it clear how incredibly proud of you I am. I love getting texts from you about your love for your classes, and how you want to be president of this club and president of that. How you help out kids, and how you host events. I love hearing about your major and the classes you are so incredibly excited to take. Watching you be so passionate about what you are doing and becoming makes me want to feel the same way in everything I do.

I hope someday my kids are your students because, in your hands, I know they can change the world.

Last but not least, I love you. And you're stuck with me.

Love,

Your forever number one fan

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