Ladies, this one is for you. I’m going to tell you a secret. Many of you won’t like what I’m going to say (I don’t even like what I am going to say), but I must put this out there:

If a man is interested in you, he will let you know.

This can be a difficult pill to swallow.

Aren't you sick of decoding text messages? Of wondering if he will call? Of wondering if he even knows that you exist? Ladies, I have been there! I understand, and let me just say that if he doesn't give you the time of day, it is because he is just NOT interested!

If someone treats you like they don't care, it is because they don't care. This isn't a game. We are adults; this isn't middle school anymore.

Here’s the way I look at things: the ultimate goal is marriage. My ultimate goal isn’t dating for two months, and breaking up. My ultimate goal isn’t developing a “friends with benefits” relationship. No. My ultimate goal (someday) is marriage.

The man I marry needs to be able to recognize what he wants, and pursue it. If he isn’t bold enough to pursue me, then how could he ever be qualified to lead me, and to lead our future children?

I've heard just about all of the excuses in the book. You may be thinking, “He’s just shy.” Okay. That may be so, but you will work for what you want. Maybe the timing is off, right? Wrong. To everything there is a season.

Throughout the Bible, the man pursued the woman. I cannot find a single instance in which the woman chases after the man.

The Bible says “He who findeth a wife finds what is good and obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22.

HE who finds a wife finds what is good. Let that sink in.

The man who is fit to lead you will pursue you. He will let it be known that he is interested. Don't settle for less than the man God has chosen for you.

*This article originally published at WordPress.com on July 24, 2015. Some modifications have been made.* (https://kimberlyaroach.wordpress.com/2015/07/24/he...)