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Once upon a time it was normal to court and be courted. In order to be considered a respectable man he would have had to woo his lady and take her out on nice dates to show her a good time. After her consent, the man would finally be able to date her and the idea of being exclusive to each other was expected. If the trust was broken it was a scandal and back then, being labeled a cheater was like a curse, for both the man and the woman. Why have we gotten away from that? And why don’t we chastise the men in the same way as we do the women?

In today’s society, if a man cheats it’s "normal" because he’s just a guy being a guy and is doing what guys do. But heaven forbid a woman steps out on her ma,n she should just brand a red A on her face. Our acceptance of cheating in modern dating has become such second nature that a guy posted a video on Facebook about three months ago thoroughly explaining why it’s okay for men to cheat on their girlfriends, but it’s not okay for women. He went into detail about how when guys cheat they always try to be “considerate” and cheat with a girl they aren’t attracted to so their girlfriends don’t have to worry about him trying to leave her. He claimed that men only cheat to appreciate their woman more, as if going out and having sexual relations with another woman makes the woman feel secure. The women on the other hand, he noted, are in the wrong because they find someone just as attractive, or better to cheat with, thus attacking their boyfriend’s already fragile masculinity. If a man is allowed to go out and choose who he wants to sleep with, why can’t the women? The video has been viewed over 742k times receiving over 11k reactions 9.1k of which seem to be likes of approval.

The 3.8k comments that followed ranged from disgust to people asserting their opinions on women cheating. Like this following comment that didn't chastise men for cheating but asserted the idea that women shouldn't cheat because men need somewhere to to stick their "johnsons" without having to worry about disease.

Or this comment which implied the idea that it's okay for men to cheat because of "science" while claiming that women only cheat to be petty.

We even have a situation like this where a woman blames women as a whole for men cheating. She chastises women for expecting a committed man from a young guy. She implies that expecting commitment from someone young makes the women in question immature, which in my opinion is a contradiction in itself.

Now, please do not misconstrue this article as being for cheating in general when in a relationship, as long as its mutually-accepted because I do not approve. I don’t understand why people start a committed relationship if they still want to play the field. I would prefer for my boyfriend to break up with me before he goes out catching who knows what from Lord knows who and bringing it back to me. I don’t know if today’s generation doesn’t fully understand the consequences of their actions when they sleep around, catch diseases and bare children with people they have no intention of being with.

Modern relationships are designed to fail if we keep following this format. Allowing our significant others to constantly cheat and step out just to be able to say you’re in a relationship. Relationships should be built on trust and instead these relationships are being built on lust and loneliness. Our single friends are a part of the problem. Guys calling other guys whipped because they actually care about how they treat their girlfriends, but praising them for having sex with random women. Girls digging too deep into their friends’ relationships making mountains out of molehills, thus possibly pushing their friends out of good relationships. We care so much about what external entities think about our private relationships that modern relationships won’t survive. We’re going to raise a generation of fatherless, disrespectful children and it’s going to become the new normal, unless we do something to prevent it now. Bring back exclusive relationships. Bring back trust. Bring back minding our own relationships instead of butting into others.' And remember, misery loves company.